Destination Weddings

[Gustavus Adolphus]

Where have you gone? What's good? What's bad?

Asking for a friend.

 

[1COBearsfan]

My wedding was in Aspen, Co but it was during the fall which is technically the slow season so everything was cheaper, for Aspen. That's the only input I have, I haven't been to any other destination weddings. I will say though, try to time the wedding to be during or as close to a slow season. There are deals to be had at every step, especially if bride or groom are ruthless deal makers like my wife.

 

[BaBaBlacksheep]

Does Decatur Illinois count?

 

[vincentvega]

My wedding was in Aruba. If your friend has a big family the I certainly recommend a destination wedding. Your friend needs to understand that a few people will be upset but if they have an "at home" celebration that will make those people happy. You will also inevitably have a few people who decide to go to the wedding but complain about the cost..but when it is all said and done most everyone will have a blast!!

If they are looking to do a beach wedding I would tell them to stay away from lush tropical locations and do more of a arid desert type location (Turks and Caicos, Aruba etc.) if you spend that much money on a wedding you don't want it to be pouring and have to have the wedding in an indoor wedding hall. Having it in a location that is dry will increase the odds of having the destination wedding you desire.


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[Desperado34]

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[ruprecht]

Does Decatur Illinois count?

What do you think?

#smelly

 

[Gustavus Adolphus]

Said friend can not do the Fall because of other commitments, and they are looking at Costa Rica.

 

[Run the ball]

I got married Puerto Vallarta at a Dreams resort and then spent another week at the Nuevo Vallarta Dreams resort(it was brand new at the time). I would recommend this to anyone, I see some getting married nowadays and sinking a ridiculous amount of money into their wedding. They actually are taking on debt to do so, I think that is a really terrible way to start a marriage.

 

[BearFanJohn]

I know a few people who did the destination thing and some who just considered it. The people that did it liked it because a destination wedding will reduce the amount of people who get invited. One of the things that drives up a "hometown" wedding is that there can be much, much larger number of people who might expect to be invited. The destination wedding allows a couple to restrict the number of people. Great Aunt Betty or a cousin three times removed, aren't as likely to attend if the wedding requires travel. That might sound cold but, as noted above, weddings can take on a very expensive life of their own. Another positive is that there is less stress on the couple; particularly the bride. The planning is done for you by another entity and you're basically just buying flowers, music/band, food, booze, a la carte. One doesn't have to worry about either family's home church for the wedding or club/family favorite location for the reception. Both of which can create problems. A smaller wedding also allows the bride and groom to spend more time with their closest friends and relatives. They don't have to spend time "thanking" people for attending who they haven't seen in years and may not see for years to come.

The downside, obviously, is the expense you put on the people who you want to invite. That can create some very hard feelings. Planning can be a bit of an issue because you are planning things long distance. If someone is going to do a destination wedding then its best when they have been to the location before or can go out to that location at least one prior to the wedding.

 

[AussieBear]

oz.. in june. its considered winter but its warm in certain parts.. but being its offseason in most places - its cheap. fiji is the go to cheap place for aussies

 

[Shawon0Meter]

I know a few people who did the destination thing and some who just considered it. The people that did it liked it because a destination wedding will reduce the amount of people who get invited. One of the things that drives up a "hometown" wedding is that there can be much, much larger number of people who might expect to be invited. The destination wedding allows a couple to restrict the number of people. Great Aunt Betty or a cousin three times removed, aren't as likely to attend if the wedding requires travel. That might sound cold but, as noted above, weddings can take on a very expensive life of their own. Another positive is that there is less stress on the couple; particularly the bride. The planning is done for you by another entity and you're basically just buying flowers, music/band, food, booze, a la carte. One doesn't have to worry about either family's home church for the wedding or club/family favorite location for the reception. Both of which can create problems. A smaller wedding also allows the bride and groom to spend more time with their closest friends and relatives. They don't have to spend time "thanking" people for attending who they haven't seen in years and may not see for years to come.

The downside, obviously, is the expense you put on the people who you want to invite. That can create some very hard feelings. Planning can be a bit of an issue because you are planning things long distance. If someone is going to do a destination wedding then its best when they have been to the location before or can go out to that location at least one prior to the wedding.

Do people really WANT to be invited to weddings? I would love to not get an invitation. Take up my whole weekend so my buddy and his girlfriend can have a party for their relationship?

Couples are already living together, sharing bills, having sex, having kids, etc...WHO CARES about you being able to change the way you file your taxes??

 

[DMelt36]

Got two friends about to do this. Believe the idea came from the bride-to-be's sister having a destination somewhere in Central America and they thought it was such a good time that they went ahead and did it themselves. Haven't really heard anything bad about it, but it sure can be hell financially on those who are trying to attend said destination wedding.

 

[BearFanJohn]

Do people really WANT to be invited to weddings? I would love to not get an invitation. Take up my whole weekend so my buddy and his girlfriend can have a party for their relationship?

Couples are already living together, sharing bills, having sex, having kids, etc...WHO CARES about you being able to change the way you file your taxes??

I don't disagree! But people are always going to have weddings. And, yes, sometimes its "look how special we are", "look how much money Daddy spent", etc.... But it is what it is and it will always be so...

 

[Tater]

Me and my wife just went to the Keys, got a nice room on the beach in Isla Morada and got married right on the beach.
While there, we saw a few nicer (more expensive) wedding for 40-100 guests at the same hotel/resort. All outdoors, open bar, fresh seafood and right on the beach. Looked like they all had a great time, no one had to drive home, tropical setting and probably much cheaper and more convenient than going outside the country. e even went shark fishing the next day. Then fished for smaller, tastier fish and they cooked them fresh at the restaurant next to the marina. Ate outside on the patio and heckled the table full of Red Wing fans next to us. Rented a kayak the next day and cruised though the mangroves. It's like a maze in there.
I would highly recommend.

 

[SilenceS]

Elope, people are selfish when they get married. They want you to do all these things. My best friend just got married and Im happy to be part of his wedding and everything, but after the showers, bachelor party, tux, hotel, gift. I must have spent 1500 or more and I had to be ready in my tux by 1 when the wedding didnt start until 6. Its a lot for something that really doesnt have much to do with me.

 

[DC]

7 years after we got married we both wish we would have went to Europe instead for two weeks. Could have had a $500 celebratory party for friends and family once we got back. We can all thank Disney and their endless supply of fairytales that brainwashed our ladies.

 

[AussieBear]

7 years after we got married we both wish we would have went to Europe instead for two weeks. Could have had a $500 celebratory party for friends and family once we got back. We can all thank Disney and their endless supply of fairytales that brainwashed our ladies.

they didnt get them all. my wife was in a dress but she was in flipflops. i was in flipflop and had all whites too..haha.. a nice button up and nice white shorts.. we got married on a beach.. well on the grass next to the beach.

this place

by oz standards its not a great beach... but it was free.. some places you have to rent out/permits??, this place just happened to be free though. our wedding didnt cost much at all.. a few k.. but we got a massive beach house for a week to sleep ten people.. got a personal chef to make and serve a buffet setup (not an all you can eat) wedding night... only charged 6-800 bucks for 20-30 ppl.....her dress/my outfit..da cake.. lots of jack/beer...celebrant. celebrant had the hook up on chair rentals etc.. her friends labor/designs was free too

surprisingly cheaper than i thought it was going to be.