I need a solution to this slight problem I have involving friends

[Bukkake]

Here is the part I have a question/problem with and I would love to solve....

Girl 1 = girl I do not like, not really friends with, and do not want any part of but I once did.
Girl 2 = girl I would like to still be friends with and I kind of still am friends with now.

So about a month ago was winter break and all the college students from this area returned home.....obviously. I asked girl 2 and my other close friend that goes to a CC with me to hang out one night. So I thought it would have been a fun night because I haven't talked and hung out with girl 2 who was also my prom date in high school since the summer. Well, Girl 1 ends up joining even though I never asked her to hang out and I found out in the last minute when my friend told me. I was like....WTF, I didn't ask her to come, I don't want her to come, and I didn't even think she was in town.

So the four of us hang out at the mall to shop for Christmas presents and shit. I felt incredibly alienated and I felt like my entire night that was suppose to be good because I was hanging out with two people I wanted to hang out sucked because of this girl. I remember when we were standing around discussing what to do next and then the girl 1 ends up closing the circle on me. I was like WTF is your problem? I said it to myself, not to her or anything or anybody else. So I just drifted away and doing my own shit because she kept alienating me from everything, conversations, circles, etc. It pissed me off. My prom date had nothing to do with it, she didn't do anything to piss me off, although she has changed a lot since high school and neither did my close friend from CC, he was probably the only one keeping me up if anything.

^^^ Spin off to this story.

Now here is the problem, I would like to still be friends with girl 2, the girl I originally planned on hanging out with and not have her best friend (who ruined everything), girl 1 to come along from now on. How exactly do I make this problem work? I feel like they pretty much come in a package. The female friend that I want to hang out with is really cool and she is actually no different with her best friend, it is just that I don't like her best friend and I don't want to be around her.....ever. How do I make this work?


I'll try to explain in cliffs form now
-I planned on hanging out with a buddy and girl 2 one night during winter break but girl 1 spoiled everything that night, at least for me
-I want to still hang out, talk to, etc. with girl 2 but I do not want girl 1 to ever be apart, never join unexpectedly, and pretty much never hang out with me ever again.
-The problem is that girl 1 and girl 2 are best friends so I don't know how to hang out with girl 2 but not with girl 1.


And one more question, do you think I could simply talk to girl 2 again, like just ask her hey whats up, or do you think I left on a bad note with those two girls?

 

[Jntg4]

Ummm... hire an assassin... or catch G2 when G1 is unavailable.

 

[Bukkake]

Ummm... hire an assassin... or catch G2 when G1 is unavailable.

How do I confirm that without being an ass though? Because last time nobody notified about that G1 was coming into literally the last second when my friend who was driving told me when he was on his way there. I want to make sure that she is not going to be there for sure, FOR SURE. And do you think it would be okay if I simply texted G2 and talk to her again? Or do you think I would have to explain some stuff? Neither of them seemed or acted mad at me when the night was over but I feel like even though it wasn't acted, they could be thinking a bit differently, specifically G2, don't care for G1, no offense.

 

[inactiveuser1]

Well you could bang both of them



Or you should talk to G2 about how much this bothers you and then go from there based off what her response is. If she understands, then your in luck. If she gets mad at you, she's a ***** who isn't worth your time.

 

[Jntg4]

How do I confirm that without being an ass though? Because last time nobody notified about that G1 was coming into literally the last second when my friend who was driving told me when he was on his way there. I want to make sure that she is not going to be there for sure, FOR SURE. And do you think it would be okay if I simply texted G2 and talk to her again? Or do you think I would have to explain some stuff? Neither of them seemed or acted mad at me when the night was over but I feel like even though it wasn't acted, they could be thinking a bit differently, specifically G2, don't care for G1, no offense.

Just keep going for a few weeks or so until you notice what days G1 generally isn't available and then only go with G2 on those days.

 

[Bukkake]

keep going what? What the **** are you talking about? And nobody has answered the question, do you think either one of them are mad at me with how I acted, or do you think it would be okay If I texted them and talked to them, and just ask them hey whats up?

 

[Jntg4]

I'm confused now.

 

[Crystallas]

Lay the cards on the table, be a gentleman, and be willing to compromise(hang out with her less, but when you do, it's not with the 3rd wheel.) Try to not define your relationship as anything more than friends, and if she asks, just tell her you honestly haven't thought of it in that way. The one card that you don't want to lay out on the table is that you are strictly a friend in this conversation, because if she has a tiny bit of sway and you have a tiny bit of sway, then you just put up an enormous roadblock.

Another bit of compromise would be to talk to girl 1, but if you do that behind girl 1's back, you're screwed(unless girl2 is not like most girls and she actually respects a confidential conversation). So if you talk to girl1, make sure you have clearly signaled girl2 that you want to do so. Again, be a gentleman.

Good luck.


Oh, and if girl1 is a dog that can't get a bone, thus she has nothing more than her friend, you might have to become a matchmaker(at least give it some attempt.) It usually only works in the movies, unless you know someone right up her alley.

 

[Bukkake]

I'm confused now.

What did you meant by keep going, because that makes no sense.

Did any of you even read the post? Like at all?

Crystallas, you sure as hell cannot read.

 

[Gunzaan]

Uh, I didn't read anything past the first paragraph because you shouldn't be posting a giant story about two girls you are JUST friends with. We've all had girl problems... but it's because we've fucked them or are in love with them. You are friends with 1 girl and don't like another girl. Are you 11?

My advice: Find a girl you actually are attracted to and hang out with her. Otherwise, thinking about drama with girls that are just "friends" is absolutely Special person. Girls aren't friends, they are love interests or ****-toys. Make friends with guys and use girls for other reasons.

 

[DewsSox79]

did i hear something about 2 girls and possibly a cup?

 

[Crystallas]

Crystallas, you sure as hell cannot read.

Do you understand the words coming out of my mouth? I gave you perfect advise. You can't do anything else really, unless you want to be an asshole(which might be the case).

 

[Jysen]

Simplistic solution: Find Girl 3. If both Girl 1 and Girl 2 are Best Friends, your simply fucked and not in the good way. Women gossip, and Girl 1 will ALWAYS be in the picture. Even if you do separate the two to talk with Girl 2, she will relay what happened with Girl 1 and obtain advice from her. Basically, you will be the 3rd wheel at the end of day. If theres this much drama and your not even banging her already, imagine if you were.

 

[derosabomb]

lol worst thread ever. just another average frustrated chump(AFC) here.... stop being a ***** and take what you want. otherwise your gonna be a AFC for the rest of your life.

 

[FirstTimer]

Here is the part I have a question/problem with and I would love to solve....

Girl 1 = girl I do not like, not really friends with, and do not want any part of but I once did.
Girl 2 = girl I would like to still be friends with and I kind of still am friends with now.

So about a month ago was winter break and all the college students from this area returned home.....obviously. I asked girl 2 and my other close friend that goes to a CC with me to hang out one night. So I thought it would have been a fun night because I haven't talked and hung out with girl 2 who was also my prom date in high school since the summer. Well, Girl 1 ends up joining even though I never asked her to hang out and I found out in the last minute when my friend told me. I was like....WTF, I didn't ask her to come, I don't want her to come, and I didn't even think she was in town.

So the four of us hang out at the mall to shop for Christmas presents and shit. I felt incredibly alienated and I felt like my entire night that was suppose to be good because I was hanging out with two people I wanted to hang out sucked because of this girl. I remember when we were standing around discussing what to do next and then the girl 1 ends up closing the circle on me. I was like WTF is your problem? I said it to myself, not to her or anything or anybody else. So I just drifted away and doing my own shit because she kept alienating me from everything, conversations, circles, etc. It pissed me off. My prom date had nothing to do with it, she didn't do anything to piss me off, although she has changed a lot since high school and neither did my close friend from CC, he was probably the only one keeping me up if anything.

^^^ Spin off to this story.

Now here is the problem, I would like to still be friends with girl 2, the girl I originally planned on hanging out with and not have her best friend (who ruined everything), girl 1 to come along from now on. How exactly do I make this problem work? I feel like they pretty much come in a package. The female friend that I want to hang out with is really cool and she is actually no different with her best friend, it is just that I don't like her best friend and I don't want to be around her.....ever. How do I make this work?


I'll try to explain in cliffs form now
-I planned on hanging out with a buddy and girl 2 one night during winter break but girl 1 spoiled everything that night, at least for me
-I want to still hang out, talk to, etc. with girl 2 but I do not want girl 1 to ever be apart, never join unexpectedly, and pretty much never hang out with me ever again.
-The problem is that girl 1 and girl 2 are best friends so I don't know how to hang out with girl 2 but not with girl 1.


And one more question, do you think I could simply talk to girl 2 again, like just ask her hey whats up, or do you think I left on a bad note with those two girls?

keep going what? What the **** are you talking about? And nobody has answered the question, do you think either one of them are mad at me with how I acted, or do you think it would be okay If I texted them and talked to them, and just ask them hey whats up?

Will post advice when pictures are posted.

 

[Anytime23]

I didn't read past the girl 1, girl 2 part.

My advice...dont listen to anything anyone on here says and just make your own mistakes and learn from them. Trial and error, it's a part of growing up. Have some fun, be responsible and don't be a dick. And like FT said, post pics...or gtfo

 

[FirstTimer]

Yeah, I mean..I don't get it. He wants our advice on girls without seeing their physical appearance? Who the **** does that?

 

[Anytime23]

So damn true. 9/10 the hotter one wins.

 

[Bukkake]

lol looking back this was a dumb question, the answer was actually obvious to fix it, sorry for my overreaction earlier.

 

[JosMin]

Anal sex, more or less. Or a threesome.....

TL; DR