Losing your best fiend.

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I know some of you older guys must have experienced this at some point. How in the hell do you handle it?

Background: I grew up in a predominantly white suburb, and when I was 6 I was super thrilled that a black family moved in a few houses down. Despite being closer to my brother's age, this guy and I got along from minute one; and nearly 30 years later he's still one of my favorite people. We've introduced each other (much to the confusion of everyone) as "my brother _____" for decades. We've seen each other through untold amounts of shit.

So, I got this text today:

What up lil bro? Let me level with you. Wednesday afternoon after almost passing out at work twice, and being told by our EMTs on the job site I had a resting heart rate of 130bm that I needed to go to the ER. So after numerous blood tests, IVs, and transfusions the diagnosis is I need surgery Monday to remove a possible cancerous mass from my stomach.

I will try to keep you posted and you are family so you know it's all love. Your support, moral and otherwise, would be appreciated and I will keep you in the loop. I'm staying positive and ask you to do the same.

FYI liquid diets suck ass lol.

Hold me down boyo, not trying to punch out yet.


I've buried more friends than a person should be asked to; ODs, suicides, service. But, I'm not fucking ready to start losing people to "natural causes."
 

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Sorry, I never know what to say about death. I'm not old but I've lost almost everyone, about 15 of my closest HS friends are all gone, both parents, favorite Aunts, Uncles and about 3 years ago my best friend. Sucks
 

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Sux TJ, sorry mane.

I would probably drink.
 

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so is you saying you aint racist cause you got a black friend...































if sirius, i know death well.. use dah time u got...
 

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Sorry. Hope for the best
 

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Sorry to hear, myself I am starting to reach that age where I may start losing friends, but maybe it's unfortunate, but I have never developed 30+yr relationships outside of family. Childhood of single parent and moving too much has ingrained this in me, so honestly I can say I don't think I will never experience what you're going thru.

Best of luck, my prayers are with you.
 
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I know some of you older guys must have experienced this at some point. How in the hell do you handle it?

Background: I grew up in a predominantly white suburb, and when I was 6 I was super thrilled that a black family moved in a few houses down. Despite being closer to my brother's age, this guy and I got along from minute one; and nearly 30 years later he's still one of my favorite people. We've introduced each other (much to the confusion of everyone) as "my brother _____" for decades. We've seen each other through untold amounts of shit.

So, I got this text today:

What up lil bro? Let me level with you. Wednesday afternoon after almost passing out at work twice, and being told by our EMTs on the job site I had a resting heart rate of 130bm that I needed to go to the ER. So after numerous blood tests, IVs, and transfusions the diagnosis is I need surgery Monday to remove a possible cancerous mass from my stomach.

I will try to keep you posted and you are family so you know it's all love. Your support, moral and otherwise, would be appreciated and I will keep you in the loop. I'm staying positive and ask you to do the same.

FYI liquid diets suck ass lol.

Hold me down boyo, not trying to punch out yet.


I've buried more friends than a person should be asked to; ODs, suicides, service. But, I'm not fucking ready to start losing people to "natural causes."

Awww man, sorry to hear that. It's never easy to deal with a loss.
 
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Sorry, I never know what to say about death. I'm not old but I've lost almost everyone, about 15 of my closest HS friends are all gone, both parents, favorite Aunts, Uncles and about 3 years ago my best friend. Sucks

Lost my Dad June 11th Spunky, I'm still in shock...I know your pain man. Losing so many people takes its toll.
 

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Sorry to hear this, be there for him, be strong. Pray/hope for the best, prepare for the worst.
 

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Not the time to joke when a Bears Bro reaches out, you're better than that I hope.

im better than what? wearing second hand panties from ebay? Oh, what i is, i is be skeptical of any post on the interwebs... especially duh super serus ccs......

however... i be said.. if sirius.. spend the time you do gots............ just in case.. in dat 1/10000000000 chance.. someone be 100% searyus on ccs for a change
 

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I've never actually minded getting rid of fiends.

I'm certain they were thrilled to be rid of you.

The man is worried about his friend, if you have no compassion, cool, move along. To weigh in on how awesomely detached you are is self indulgent tripe.

Fake tough guy attention whore.
 

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I'm certain they were thrilled to be rid of you.

The man is worried about his friend, if you have no compassion, cool, move along. To weigh in on how awesomely detached you are is self indulgent tripe.

Fake tough guy attention whore.
Just reading the title as it is, drama queen.
 

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Easy to read through this thread and forget the guy is still alive.
 

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I often deal with people fighting for their lives. It’s sometimes hard to stay positive but you have too... because he has to. I hope he bears it.
 

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A lot of thoughts will go through your head for years.

And there is nothing you can do about it. Just find whatever smidgen of happiness you can.

I'm sorry man. Losing a true best friend is on par with losing a parent young, for some people its worse.
 

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