My Uncle.

[Monk]

So my uncle Henry died today. He was my dad's cousin so I don't know if he was technically my uncle but that's what we always called him. He and my dad had a minor falling out before my dad died and we weren't as close as we were when I was younger. My mom just texted me that he died.

I'm really at a loss for the moment. I want to text back but I don't know what to write. I want to call but I don't know what to say. It's really strange.

Anyone had a family member you weren't close with pass away suddenly? I can't even say that I'm really sad at the moment, just kind of shocked.

 

[Shawon0Meter]

The sadness might kick in later..it might not. I had an Uncle who died about 6 months ago and wasn't close to him but it can definitely be a lesson to reconnect with people before it's too late. I was never really sad sad about it tbh

You could just say the same thing you're telling us...that it's shocking and it's too bad you weren't as close as you used to be.

I'd call rather than text and that way you can just be honest about what you're feeling. Texting makes you think about what you wanna say.

 

[Nail Polish]

Sorry for your loss Monk...Prayers out to everyone affected

 

[nvanprooyen]

Sorry Monk. I've been in the same boat a few times. Largely disconnected from my dads side of the family.

 

[Monk]

I know if I'm able to go to the funeral I'm going to loose it. Mostly because his kids were just slightly older than my brother and I and his wife is one of my mom's best friends.

 

[Monk]

I really wish my mom would have called. At least then I'd just be reacting and nothing thinking about it so much.

 

[Ares]

Sorry to hear it Monk.... my step mom died kinda suddenly about a year and a half ago.... she was having some trouble with her liver, but was recovering according to the doctors.... then one day at work I got a call from my actual mom who heard through the grapevine that my step mom was on her death bed.... I rushed over there to be with my Dad the whole time and stuck with him the whole week and just took care of him. The entire time I was kinda numb about it.... it wasnt that I didn't care, I certainly did.... but I just couldn't figure out how to react, so I just shut it all down and took care of whatever my Dad needed. So I guess I can kinda sympathize with how you do not know how to react.

Again, sorry for your loss, hang in there man.

 

[Monk]

Gracias. That's exactly it too. I have no idea how to react. Plus we live like an hour and a half away or I would just drive and go see my aunt and everyone.

 

[X]

Prayers, monk.

I had an uncle pass away last fall...he was a great guy, but his wife sort of alienated them from the rest of the family. She's hateful, snarky, inconsiderate, and isn't afraid to put down anyone (including her mother, who is still alive....<3 grandma)...but he was a great guy. I felt similar things to those that you're feeling. He wasn't in great shape, but died suddenly of a heart attack. Pure shock. Sadness came later, and it was overall a crappy situation. Pull through, bud. Be there for those that need to chat...and don't be afraid to chat yourself.

 

[Monk]

Thanks X. I'm going to call my mom and find out when the funeral is today.

 

[Run the ball]

My wife's father died 3 weeks ago, the fucked up part is that they didn't talk. He never even came to our wedding either, personally I was like meh, but my wife has taken it much harder than I thought. Lots of regret I suppose, but the man kinda made his bed and karma finished it off. IMO

Do what you feel is best is my opinion.

 

[Monk]

Yeah, called my mom and cried like a baby. He was sent to Duke with the flu and never woke up after being sedated and put on a breathing machine.

 

[brett05]

Take the ride, it's only 90 min and 1) Mourn with the family, 2) Support the family, 3) both.

*internet hug*

 

[bearmick]

Sorry for your loss, Monk.

 

[Monk]

Sorry for your loss, Monk.

Thanks buddy.