Some advice

[beardown28]

I have more advice I need from the guys. My girlfriend has recently started hanging out with this girl (going out to dinner, bars... you know normal stuff.) I found out from a friend that this new girl is a complete slut. Would you all be worried at all? I trust my girlfriend I just hope this new girl doesn't rub off on her or encourage her to do something while she is out at a bar.

 

[derosabomb]

I have more advice I need from the guys. My girlfriend has recently started hanging out with this girl (going out to dinner, bars... you know normal stuff.) I found out from a friend that this new girl is a complete slut. Would you all be worried at all? I trust my girlfriend I just hope this new girl doesn't rub off on her or encourage her to do something while she is out at a bar.

id be worried, worried it rubs off on her and she gets all slutty in the bedroom with you, yeah real worried.

 

[cubsneedmiracle]

Well.. I wouldn't be too worried about it unless you see some warning signs..

acting differently around you.. more than just once or twice..

over defensive.. kinda the usual stuff

 

[zack54attack]

Ehhh idk dude. It could go either way. I was in a great relationship for 12 of the 14 months and my ex dated. She told me she loved me first, I was the best bf she had, her family LOVES me and still talks to me, she even brought up moving and getting married to her within 2 years... then she started hanging out with her old best friend again in January. She hated her while we dated. My ex turned into a ***** and dumped me in Feb, to "Hang out with her friends more"

Moral of the story?

Spoiler

**** Bitches, Get money

 

[Scoot26]

Ehhh idk dude. It could go either way. I was in a great relationship for 12 of the 14 months and my ex dated. She told me she loved me first, I was the best bf she had, her family LOVES me and still talks to me, she even brought up moving and getting married to her within 2 years... then she started hanging out with her old best friend again in January. She hated her while we dated. My ex turned into a ***** and dumped me in Feb, to "Hang out with her friends more"

Moral of the story?

Spoiler

**** Bitches, Get money

Haha..that became my friends motto after ending his 5 year off/on again relationship with his GF...

Some bitches are a bad influence on others...I have a lady friend of mine..before there was this ***** of a girl who was just a shitty friend to everyone...but my friend and her were best friends for years and years...my friend finally saw the light after high school..and her life was never better...that ***** has tried coming back into her life again..but luckily its never panned out. Not to say it would really affect me or anything being that shes just a friend and not my girlfriend..but I understand the effect in a way.

 

[Shawon0Meter]

Yeah, you should probably worry. Girls are easily influenced by their friends and like using being drunk as an excuse for anything, even when they know better. Get ready for the "I didn't kiss him, he kissed me" and watch it escalate from there.

Spoiler

**** Bitches, Get money

 

[Popinski Soda]

id be worried, worried it rubs off on her and she gets all slutty in the bedroom with you, yeah real worried.

The only thing I'd be worried about is finding just the right time to bring up the 'ole ménage à trois.


J

 

[Popinski Soda]

Seriously though, you can't tell her that you don't approve of her friends. To a woman that means you're saying that you don't approve of her judgement, and by extension; you don't approve of her. It's kinda like a guilt by association type deal. Your only option is to just ride it out and hope for the best. If you trust her, and I'm assuming she hasn't given you any reason not to, everything should work out fine. Trust me, I've fucked up a lot of relationships so I'm an expert in what not to do.

Just give her some space and it'll be fine, you'll see.


J

 

[X]

no reason to worry...let it ride out...if she's smart, she'll see this chick's bad news, and dis-associate w/ her in time.

 

[Popinski Soda]

no reason to worry...let it ride out...if she's smart, she'll see this chick's bad news, and dis-associate w/ her in time.

Exactly.


J

 

[Jysen]

Everyones opinion is about dead on. If you trust her, and if shes intelligent, this will be nothing more than a fad. One of those 'glory' days of the past shes reliving. However, as stated before, there are warning signs that will be obvious if things turn out differently. Defensive, confrontational, and avoidance are good signs something is wrong. But if you approach her prior to this in a negative way, then its expect negative results.

 

[Crystallas]

Wait now, so if you had a guy friend that jumps bones every other night, is that going to make you a man-whore?

The unintended consequences of manipulating your girlfriend's friend choices will set your relationship back. Like some have already said, leave it be. But I will say this, you can tell her that you don't feel comfortable with her friend, just choose your words and don't insult her friend choosing judgment. I repeat, Do NOT insult your girlfriend over her choice in friends.

Also bare in mind, the good girls(well, humans in general) have supportive qualities about them. They see a friend with bad habits, take them for who they are and have a deep down desire to help rehabilitate them into a better life.

 

[Popinski Soda]

Also bare in mind, the good girls(well, humans in general) have supportive qualities about them. They see a friend with bad habits, take them for who they are and have a deep down desire to help rehabilitate them into a better life.

That's an excellent point, I didn't even think about that one.


J

 

[Jysen]

Even so, they can be easily manipulated just like any other. A desire to help and being empathetic tends to cause a rift in themselves if unchecked.

 

[Popinski Soda]

Even so, they can be easily manipulated just like any other. A desire to help and being empathetic tends to cause a rift in themselves if unchecked.

Who's 'they'? The friend, or women in general?


J

 

[Jysen]

The person thats being empathetic and wanting to help. A person with a strong desire to help can often at times lose focus on themselves, thus hurting those around them. In this scenario, if his GF is such a person, and she focuses to much energy on her friend, there wont be much left for him. In some people, they also are so in tune with the other that theyre trying to help, that they will begin to in a sense, mimick the friend. Such as attitude and language. Its hard to explain with limited room..

 

[Jysen]

Now heres the thing... Most people with issues cling to past experiences. So while his GF and her are getting friendly again, at some point, she will eventually push his GF away if she gets to close or feels fear due to change. Women are mental. They want help, a friend, and chicks with serious issues tend to deny that for themselves. Not all, but the majority do. This will make his GF step back and his concerns settled. IF shes not easily influenced. If shes not stronged willed, than cautious imo.