My dad died this morning

[Urblock]

My father died about 3 1/2 years ago from a heart attack. It actually happened during the last Patriots-Giants Super Bowl. I was watching it at his house, he said he was going to work on a book he was writing, I went to his room to let him know the third quarter was starting and I found him dead.

It's rough. Like you, I think I had the best dad in the world. I got through it by constantly reminding myself how lucky I was. I had 32 years with him. That's a lot longer than a lot of people get with their fathers. Some people never know their dads. Some people wish they had never known their dads.

It seems like you had a great relationship with a great father. That's invaluable. Keep reminding yourself of that.

Also, get some rest. My thoughts are with you.

That is a good attitude. My Dad got killed in a car crash when he was 27. I was 7.

 

[ijustposthere]

Condolences. Both my parents are (thankfully) alive, I'm not sure how I'm going to handle it when they're gone.

 

[LordKOTL]

My condolences man...

 

[Parade_Rain]

I'm old enough to be your dad. I lost mine last December. I am very sorry for your loss, Shawnometer.

 

[BaBaBlacksheep]

Sorry for your loss. Sorry for all of you who've lost parents. You're in my thoughts.

 

[BearFanJohn]

Condolences. A simply awful experience.

 

[theOHIOSTATE!]

Man, that sounds horrible to go through.

 

[Shawon0Meter]

Guys, thanks for all the responses. I honestly appreciate the kind words, the prayers, the stories..all of it.

Just got back from the funeral home and picking out a grave site, things i've never given thought to, and it's nice to read

 

[Ares]

Guys, thanks for all the responses. I honestly appreciate the kind words, the prayers, the stories..all of it.

Just got back from the funeral home and picking out a grave site, things i've never given thought to, and it's nice to read

Stay strong mane....

 

[Warrior Spirit]

Sorry, man.

I remember when I was just a Spartan in training, I lost my dad... to a world of gambling, boos and drugs. Every now and then I recall dear ol' dad's final words to me as he walked out the door, "Goodbye, .... what's your name?"

 

[Hbkrusso]

I guess the point of this thread is to hear how anybody who has dealt with parents they were close to dying.

I'm lost right now. My dad was 51 years old only. He most likely died from a heart attack. Even though his health wasn't what it used to be because of smoking, he didn't seem to be anywhere near death. He seemed healthy but with a few problems so this is a total surprise.

CCS seems like an appropriate place to type this stuff out because the #1 thing my dad and I loved together is the Cubs. He grew up a Cubs fan from watching games on WGN and I followed right behind. Just last night I spent time talking to him outside his house for about 20 minutes and we were both following the Cubs games on our phone and talking mostly about the Cubs lol

This is cliche but I genuinely mean it when I say I feel like I had the best dad ever.

I'll shut up here because I know everybody has problems...but man, this is a tough one....

i'm sorry for your loss dude

 

[truthbedamned]

This is cliche but I genuinely mean it when I say I feel like I had the best dad ever.


Trust me. That is all a father ever needs to hear. 51 is way to young. My condolences.

 

[Monster]

Very sorry for you and your family.

 

[Rush]

I guess the point of this thread is to hear how anybody who has dealt with parents they were close to dying.

I'm lost right now. My dad was 51 years old only. He most likely died from a heart attack. Even though his health wasn't what it used to be because of smoking, he didn't seem to be anywhere near death. He seemed healthy but with a few problems so this is a total surprise.

CCS seems like an appropriate place to type this stuff out because the #1 thing my dad and I loved together is the Cubs. He grew up a Cubs fan from watching games on WGN and I followed right behind. Just last night I spent time talking to him outside his house for about 20 minutes and we were both following the Cubs games on our phone and talking mostly about the Cubs lol

This is cliche but I genuinely mean it when I say I feel like I had the best dad ever.

I'll shut up here because I know everybody has problems...but man, this is a tough one....

Sorry to hear that man. Lost my dad around the same age, when I was 19 a couple days into starting college.....also came out of nowhere as he was recovering from a bone marrow transplant after beating cancer a couple times. It turned my world upside down. I would write down as many good memories as you can because over time you'll start to forget them. I wish I had taken the time (maybe not now, as you're grieving) to jot down as many memories as I could possibly think of.

Surround yourself with those you love, it makes it hurt less. Pain will never go away but, thinking of the good times whenever you're down about it or anything else, will help.

 

[L GUAPO]

I'm really so sorry Shawn. My thoughts will be with you and your family. You lost your best friend in the whole world and there is no replacing that. Stay with your family and if you can think of the funny and amazing times you two shared.

 

[DrGonzo]

Very sorry for your loss. Hang in there man.

 

[R_Mac_1]

My dad is also 51 and is likely going to die soon because of Mesothelioma. I'm not very close with him, though, so its not as hard as what you're going through, I'm sure.

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[brett05]

Guys, thanks for all the responses. I honestly appreciate the kind words, the prayers, the stories..all of it.

Just got back from the funeral home and picking out a grave site, things i've never given thought to, and it's nice to read

I lost my Mom one January winter 6 years ago just after a good snow storm. Got the notice from my wife who was in tears as I was shoveling the driveway. Got a hug from a buddy of mine that was picking me up for breakfast. That day my sister, brother-in law, wife, Dad, and I went to the funeral home. It was so amazing really. I thought I would be broken up but we were all happy. We were reminiscing about Mom and then as we were making arrangements we kept thinking of what Mom would want/say. The Undertaker said he'd never seen a family have such a good time doing this after someone had passed. It was weird I suppose, but for us it was healing.

When I went past the casket to say good bye, I really started to finally lose it. My Mom (Mother-In Law) just held me like I was her birth son and rocked me on the floor. It was one of the nicest things she's done for me and she's done a lot of nice things for me. Time does heal, but every so often I will think of a special moment I had with my mom. Most of those when I was a child. And yes, I cry a bit as I did writing this.

I second what Rush said. When you have time, write down those good memories. You'll treasure it when you are older.

 

[airtime143]

I guess the point of this thread is to hear how anybody who has dealt with parents they were close to dying.

I'm lost right now. My dad was 51 years old only. He most likely died from a heart attack. Even though his health wasn't what it used to be because of smoking, he didn't seem to be anywhere near death. He seemed healthy but with a few problems so this is a total surprise.

CCS seems like an appropriate place to type this stuff out because the #1 thing my dad and I loved together is the Cubs. He grew up a Cubs fan from watching games on WGN and I followed right behind. Just last night I spent time talking to him outside his house for about 20 minutes and we were both following the Cubs games on our phone and talking mostly about the Cubs lol

This is cliche but I genuinely mean it when I say I feel like I had the best dad ever.

I'll shut up here because I know everybody has problems...but man, this is a tough one....

My pops dies when he was 51 as well, Cancer so although the process was awful, the preperation time was extended out- we knew time was limited, so it was a double edged sword.
Cancer is horrible, but I am very appreciative that I had a "heads up" to get things done.

I have lost loved ones as an adult, and it blows. Nothing is going to make the hurting stop.
Don't try to put up a fake happy face.
Live with the sadness and sense of loss knowing the pain of missing him is a testament to how much he meant to you. Never try to minimize it.
You are going to think about him and feel crushed.
Although the sense of loss will be there forever, something absolutely wonderful is going to happen weeks or months from now.
One day, you are going to have a memory triggered that makes you grin instead of cry.
The loss remains, the feelings remain, but down the road at some point, the memories gain a bittersweet, happy tone, where you can smile while remembering good times of doing things with him rather than only feeling the sense of loss doing those thingws without him.

Take every step of this at your own leisure- there is no standard set of rules to follow. I am not going to say things will get better. You will just get accustomed to dealing with it, and learn to live on with the loss... eventually one day being able to feel normal again and able to remember the good beyond the bad.