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R K

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Funny you bring up sisters.... My Mom would use the wooden spoon on my sister all the time. Once I was the big "little brother" and broke it over my knee after grabbing it out of my moms hand mid swing. She hauled me down to my Dad wanted great punishment for me. Handed him the wooden spoon in two pieces. All he did was laugh at her and send me away.
 

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We still laugh about the day my mom broke the spatula on my brothers head.
 

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Now a days that's considered child abuse. I'm not sure, although I never once spanked my son, or did anything of any harmful nature to him. he's also a pretty good kid as they go.
 

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I had never heard of such thing as a timeout until I was in highschool and babysitting. One of my three year olds punched me in the nuts, said it was a love tap. Then the little cherub suggested he could go sit in the corner for five minutes. I was just going to yell at him not to do that but instead, "Umm.. Yeah, that sounds like a good idea (W.T.F. is a timeout???)", and went to go get a Coke out of the fridge.



That kid had no idea how to keep time anyway.

Timeouts seemed to evolve in the 90s. It was unheard of back in the 60s and 70s - you got a spanking and that was that. The 80s brought some movements toward a different form of discipline. The talk shows at that time were full of people advocating spanking debating with the other side that believed in discipline without violence. By the 90s the 'timeout' was the new way to discipline. It just means they have to stop playing and sit/stand in a corner for a period of time - the rule of thumb is one minute per age. So a 3 year old would have a 3 minute timeout. The parent, not the kid, is supposed to time it. By wife uses a timer - I just wing it. It's not the only thing that has changed. When I was a kid and the teachers wanted us to sit down in mass assembly they would just say 'sit Indian style'. Today that term is considered offensive and degrading to Indians. So the new term is "sit criss-cross applesauce".
 

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Timeouts seemed to evolve in the 90s. It was unheard of back in the 60s and 70s - you got a spanking and that was that. The 80s brought some movements toward a different form of discipline. The talk shows at that time were full of people advocating spanking debating with the other side that believed in discipline without violence. By the 90s the 'timeout' was the new way to discipline. It just means they have to stop playing and sit/stand in a corner for a period of time - the rule of thumb is one minute per age. So a 3 year old would have a 3 minute timeout. The parent, not the kid, is supposed to time it. By wife uses a timer - I just wing it. It's not the only thing that has changed. When I was a kid and the teachers wanted us to sit down in mass assembly they would just say 'sit Indian style'. Today that term is considered offensive and degrading to Indians. So the new term is "sit criss-cross applesauce".

That's pretty much what I did, for example: (5 minutes) = (how long it took to get lunch on the table).



This was in '86. Both parents were Lithuanian and had their boys enrolled in some school to learn the mother language so sometimes it was easier to ask them how to say words in Lithuanian than to get them to sit when they were too wound up for that.
 

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A lot of it depends on the child. If the whole point of punishment is to (a) stop the kid from doing that and (
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provide a negative reinforcement to make them really think about what they did, you have to tailor make punishments to the child itself. Corporal punishment is an effective immediate deterrent because it acts on a very basal nature: pain=not good. You have to really think where your kid is going to go with it consciouslly from there.



Counter-intuitively, it's the better adjusted kids that show a deep affection and bond to their family that respond to it better long-term. If you're well-loved, and mommy and daddy get angry and hit you, you must have really done something bad and don't want to do it anymore. If the kid is maladjusted, and doesn't have a good bond or afection, the punishment is less psychological and more just pain=immediate deterrant. The results could be as good as the kid just does it over and over trying not to get caught, or as bad as equating pain to love and thriving on abuse, or worse, pulling a Menendez.



That being said, I don't think corporal punishment is abuse. I do think that only parents should administer it, though (not schools. Send the kid home to get spanked). I also think that like any tool, there's a right and a wrong place to use it and if you over use it, it loses its effectiveness and could have some unintended onsequences.
 

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