**** you, Cancer

[Rush]

Sucks man, hope for the best, but expect the worst. Not necessarily "expect" it but just know that the possibility of losing them forever is there. When my dad had it, he beat it twice. It wound up coming back and he had to get a bone marrow transplant to fully insure it wouldn't come back. He wound up having it go successful and then passed away to a severe blood clot in recovery.

We always were 100% positive that he would be fine, he was supposed to go home 2 weeks after they told him it was successful. He died 7 days later. As somebody who has lost their father to this shit, I would say REGARDLESS of what they tell you, spend as much time with them as you can. The doctors told us from day 1 he would be fine, and that wasn't the case. I never discussed with him what should happen to our family, should he pass away. It's my biggest regret to this day. Not having that "closure" or final conversation about what he would want me to do, or things to take care of specifically. It's just a shitty feeling knowing that he went to sleep thinking shit would be fine in the morning and he died in his sleep.

Even if they tell you the doctors say they are fine and dandy, do not take for granted they could be gone the next day. Spend every moment with them as if it was their last. I don't mean that in the sense that put off the feeling you think they will die, that isn't positive at all. Commit the time you have to them 100%.

 

[Captain Obvious]

Damn. Unfortunately thats how it tends to go. One minute fine, next minute your ill. Its really fucked up. Hopefully those levels go down, and chemo, which is hard as it is, can reverse the situation. Survivors have one thing in common tho, they refused to lay down. Its really a shame how we can cure bullshit and research trivial shit, but not focus more on the shit that kills so many every year. Then again, there are so many damn forms. Do you know what type they said hes got?

It's in his liver. What frustrates me the most is that he is soooo rich and could afford anything that they have. But he can't, because there is nothing.

Sucks man, hope for the best, but expect the worst. Not necessarily "expect" it but just know that the possibility of losing them forever is there. When my dad had it, he beat it twice. It wound up coming back and he had to get a bone marrow transplant to fully insure it wouldn't come back. He wound up having it go successful and then passed away to a severe blood clot in recovery.

We always were 100% positive that he would be fine, he was supposed to go home 2 weeks after they told him it was successful. He died 7 days later. As somebody who has lost their father to this shit, I would say REGARDLESS of what they tell you, spend as much time with them as you can. The doctors told us from day 1 he would be fine, and that wasn't the case. I never discussed with him what should happen to our family, should he pass away. It's my biggest regret to this day. Not having that "closure" or final conversation about what he would want me to do, or things to take care of specifically. It's just a shitty feeling knowing that he went to sleep thinking shit would be fine in the morning and he died in his sleep.

Even if they tell you the doctors say they are fine and dandy, do not take for granted they could be gone the next day. Spend every moment with them as if it was their last. I don't mean that in the sense that put off the feeling you think they will die, that isn't positive at all. Commit the time you have to them 100%.

When my grandma died, it was the same basic situation. We found out, they gave her a few weeks, and she died in a few weeks. They have given him a few weeks... so we shall see. Like someone else said earlier, it's all about attitude. From what my mom has said, he is really down about it... which really depresses me.

It sucks though, because he lives in Arizona, therefore I can't go out to see him. It's looking like the next time I will see him will be at his funeral. I talked to him on the phone today and he asked me how shit was and everything, then he asked how my mom was. He said "Is she getting better?" She's not sick at all or anything. Then he said not your mom, your grandma. My Grandma died almost 4 years ago. I finally knew what he was saying, he was referring to my cousin's mom(not my aunt... don't consider her family). She recently had open heart surgery and is not doing very well either. It just sucks that all these people that are so proud of me are passing away. It's so WTF?

But anyway, after I mentioned that it was my cousin's mom, I just said that I was thinking of him and that I had faith in him and knew he could do it. That's the first time I have heard the man cry. He is truly one of my role models and someone I look up to. He is the best businessman I have ever met and just some of the simple basic pointers have helped me out tremendously with my projects and such. He made everything look so easy and I just hope that one day I can be as successful as him.

 

[Jysen]

As Rush mentioned, find closure, or you will regret it. While I have never faced this in life, I have encountered this via my imagination regarding my Gramma. She turned 82 yesterday. One day she will not be here, its a hard fact. But the most important thing in life is the people you love. The next important thing is letting them know this. You may not be able to see him, but by talking to him, and letting him know what he means to you is a very strong thing. That alone can give him the strength to fight.

 

[zack54attack]

I'm sorry to heart that CO. I will pray for your him and your family.


It's okay to cry man. Don't let anyone ever tell you that your weak or not a man if you cry. Trust me, crying is fine.

I hope everything goes okay man. Keep being strong.

 

[Jntg4]

It's in his liver. What frustrates me the most is that he is soooo rich and could afford anything that they have. But he can't, because there is nothing.



When my grandma died, it was the same basic situation. We found out, they gave her a few weeks, and she died in a few weeks. They have given him a few weeks... so we shall see. Like someone else said earlier, it's all about attitude. From what my mom has said, he is really down about it... which really depresses me.

It sucks though, because he lives in Arizona, therefore I can't go out to see him. It's looking like the next time I will see him will be at his funeral. I talked to him on the phone today and he asked me how shit was and everything, then he asked how my mom was. He said "Is she getting better?" She's not sick at all or anything. Then he said not your mom, your grandma. My Grandma died almost 4 years ago. I finally knew what he was saying, he was referring to my cousin's mom(not my aunt... don't consider her family). She recently had open heart surgery and is not doing very well either. It just sucks that all these people that are so proud of me are passing away. It's so WTF?

But anyway, after I mentioned that it was my cousin's mom, I just said that I was thinking of him and that I had faith in him and knew he could do it. That's the first time I have heard the man cry. He is truly one of my role models and someone I look up to. He is the best businessman I have ever met and just some of the simple basic pointers have helped me out tremendously with my projects and such. He made everything look so easy and I just hope that one day I can be as successful as him.

Sure you can't take time off of school to visit him? Or Spring Break if yours is soon enough?

You could go to a Baseball Game together. :shrug:

Still a chance he could last a while though. My mom's cousin Ken was given a few weeks and lived a couple more years without any treatment, then died.

 

[bossdrb]

Sorry Bro....prayers for you, him and your family.

iRepeat. I've lost alotta people in my family.

 

[Captain Obvious]

As Rush mentioned, find closure, or you will regret it. While I have never faced this in life, I have encountered this via my imagination regarding my Gramma. She turned 82 yesterday. One day she will not be here, its a hard fact. But the most important thing in life is the people you love. The next important thing is letting them know this. You may not be able to see him, but by talking to him, and letting him know what he means to you is a very strong thing. That alone can give him the strength to fight.

Thanks for the advice, I definitely will do that. It's greatly appreciated.

I'm sorry to heart that CO. I will pray for your him and your family.

It's okay to cry man. Don't let anyone ever tell you that your weak or not a man if you cry. Trust me, crying is fine.

I hope everything goes okay man. Keep being strong.

Thanks a lot, bro. I cry like a baby when people die, it's just weird seeing(hearing?) these people that I genuinely look up to cry.

Sure you can't take time off of school to visit him? Or Spring Break if yours is soon enough?

You could go to a Baseball Game together. :shrug:

Still a chance he could last a while though. My mom's cousin Ken was given a few weeks and lived a couple more years without any treatment, then died.

I can't take time off of school, work, and the musical to go to AZ, only to have to go back for his funeral.

More bad news... he had blood work today, slept all the way there and all the way back and has started to jandous(sp?). It's looking more like days than weeks at this point

Also, my cousin's mom was taken off life support today. It's not a good month to be in my family

 

[Jntg4]

Thanks for the advice, I definitely will do that. It's greatly appreciated.



Thanks a lot, bro. I cry like a baby when people die, it's just weird seeing(hearing?) these people that I genuinely look up to cry.



I can't take time off of school, work, and the musical to go to AZ, only to have to go back for his funeral.

More bad news... he had blood work today, slept all the way there and all the way back and has started to jandous(sp?). It's looking more like days than weeks at this point

Also, my cousin's mom was taken off life support today. It's not a good month to be in my family

Sorry, sorry, sorry bro.

I have no idea what jandous means though, but it doesn't sound good in the context you put it in, so... sorry bro.

 

[bobferg]

"If there’s one thing I hate its losing. If there’s two things I hate it’s losing and getting cancer."

Kenny Powers.

A buddy of mine got testicular cancer a few months ago. As soon as we heard we made about 100 shirts with this quote on it. We each took one and gave the rest to him. He loved them, he would hand them out to nurses and doctors and other patients. It really uplifted his spirits, and that is important.

 

[AddisonStation]

Ugh.. I hate to hear this kind of news. I'm sorry CO, hang tough.

 

[Captain Obvious]

He passed away this morning in his sleep. Memorial is next Tuesday. Going to have to miss 3 days of school :\

 

[Rush]

Sorry to hear about that man

 

[derosabomb]

i pray for him and you blake

 

[Jysen]

Sorry to hear that man. At least he went peacefully. Tho thats never much compensation...

 

[Shawon0Meter]

Ugh that's rough man. I can't believe you only made this thread like 3 weeks ago and he's gone. Best wishes to you and your family while you try to get through this.

 

[Captain Obvious]

Sorry to hear that man. At least he went peacefully. Tho thats never much compensation...

Actually, it hasn't been that bad. I only cried once and it wasn't much at all. But, it hasn't really hit me yet. For what ever reason it kinda makes me feel better that he isn't suffering anymore.

 

[Jysen]

I understand that situation. Many that have experienced such as this say the same thing. I for one would be hit hard, but grateful it wasnt painful. My best friends Father was one to me. He passed away almost two yrs ago from a coma in a car accident. Drinking. But had he woke up, there was serious damage to the brain and who know what hell he'd have had to go through. Its never easy to really say 'Im glad', but perhaps thankful is a better word. I hope the best for you man, and remember him always.

 

[Gator29]

Sorry to hear about your tragic loss. I will pray for your family and you.