Dating Advice

[Soaps]

well hello all,



so i have just started getting into the dating scene and I have no idea what I am doing. I've been talking to some of my friends and they say that I have to be chasee not the chaser when it comes to the guys that I am interested in me and that I think that may be interested in? what do you guys think of that? also how can I read the signs that the guys is into me? (im pretty oblvious when it comes to this stuff). I really want the guys perspective on this. so tell me what you think!

 

[jakobeast]

well hello all,



so i have just started getting into the dating scene and I have no idea what I am doing. I've been talking to some of my friends and they say that I have to be chasee not the chaser when it comes to the guys that I am interested in me and that I think that may be interested in? what do you guys think of that? also how can I read the signs that the guys is into me? (im pretty oblvious when it comes to this stuff). I really want the guys perspective on this. so tell me what you think!

Put out.

 

[winos5]

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[Soaps]

lmao this shall be an interesting topic..

 

[supraman]

Wish I had an answer for ya Soaps. I wish women would be the chaser since I'm terrible at striking up conversation.

 

[winos5]

On a more serious note. Don't play games. Be yourself. Have fun. When a guy shows interest more than 1-2 dates he's probably interested, if he hangs around more than a month or two he's probably okay with a more serious relationship.

 

[jakobeast]

I kid.



Don't listen to your friends. Sometimes it's right to be the chasee, sometimes it's better to be the chaser. Basically, do whatever your head and heart tell you. Only they can tell you what you need to do, not your friends.



As far as knowing if a guy is into you, it depends on the guy. If he is interested, he will let his intentions known, unless he is a pussy. i have been that pussy. Some guys flirt in very subtle ways other guys a blatant as all hell. Like repeatedly asking to see your milk wagons. Really, listen to yourself. If you find a guy you find attractive, pursue him. If a guy flirts with you and you like him, pursue it. If he ain't your cup o tea, let him know. Tell him you aren't interested, or that you are attached to a fat hairy guy named Jakobeast. After that, he will recognize the name, and thus back off.





















































































Now show me your tits.

 

[Soaps]

My friends tell me that when Im the chaser I'm attracting the douches and I'm the one who ends up getting hurt. So thats why they tell me to the chasee

 

[jakobeast]

My friends tell me that when Im the chaser I'm attracting the douches and I'm the one who ends up getting hurt. So thats why they tell me to the chasee

No, you just need to stop chasing douchebags.



I suggest the chubby guy, or the nerd, or the chubby nerd. They really appreciate a good looking gal (such as yourself), and really lavish the right kind of attention on them. Ask McAtoms or JusJizz.

 

[TSD]

Im kind of in the same boat from the opposite perspective except I have no intention of "dating" anyone for at least a year.



Which is probably a good thing, because I have no clue in hell how to like, start a relationship anymore. I spend the better part of my 20's with the same girl I am now freshly 29, and try to think back to when I was 22 and wooed my last girlfriend, and remember the first time we met I chased her around my dorm room with my dick(I was really really drunk gimme a break)



I have a feeling this time around thats not going to work.

My friends tell me that when Im the chaser I'm attracting the douches and I'm the one who ends up getting hurt. So thats why they tell me to the chasee

I really dont think that matters. As jakobeast said, the nerdier dudes will probably never **** you over. There is a catch 22 there though, as I have a friend that is like that and he got "chased" and they got married, but he did it out of lack of any other option. So with more insecure guys while they may make great husbands and boyfriends you have to think, is he doing it because he cant get anyone else or he really wants me?



I Dont know Im no expert I just call it as I see it.

 

[bri]

Im kind of in the same boat from the opposite perspective except I have no intention of "dating" anyone for at least a year.



Which is probably a good thing, because I have no clue in hell how to like, start a relationship anymore. I spend the better part of my 20's with the same girl I am now freshly 29, and try to think back to when I was 22 and wooed my last girlfriend, and remember the first time we met I chased her around my dorm room with my dick(I was really really drunk gimme a break)



I have a feeling this time around thats not going to work.

OMG That is like the smartest thing I've ever heard you say. Good for you.

 

[TSD]

OMG That is like the smartest thing I've ever heard you say. Good for you.

what that chasing a chick around with my man meat wont get me in her good graces? While as a more mature person these days, yes that seems rather crude, but you never know what turns a chick on.

 

[bri]

what that chasing a chick around with my man meat wont get me in her good graces? While as a more mature person these days, yes that seems rather crude, but you never know what turns a chick on.

I was referring to you giving yourself a year. You need the time to heal and readjust.

 

[Ymono37]

Im kind of in the same boat from the opposite perspective except I have no intention of "dating" anyone for at least a year.



Which is probably a good thing, because I have no clue in hell how to like, start a relationship anymore. I spend the better part of my 20's with the same girl I am now freshly 29, and try to think back to when I was 22 and wooed my last girlfriend, and remember the first time we met I chased her around my dorm room with my dick(I was really really drunk gimme a break)



I have a feeling this time around thats not going to work.







I really dont think that matters. As jakobeast said, the nerdier dudes will probably never **** you over. There is a catch 22 there though, as I have a friend that is like that and he got "chased" and they got married, but he did it out of lack of any other option. So with more insecure guys while they may make great husbands and boyfriends you have to think, is he doing it because he cant get anyone else or he really wants me?



I Dont know Im no expert I just call it as I see it.

I can relate... definitely not sure how any of this "dating" shit works anymore - the older you get, the more your dating pool shrinks and the more you have to find ways to meet people outside of you safe little groups. Add in some low self-esteem and it only gets more difficult. Alas... I must sugar my own churro.



With that said Soaps, you're young enough to lay all your cards on the table and wear your heart on your sleeve. So do it. Revel in your youth (while still using protection).



My buddy had some sage-like advice (and feel free to change it for a more feminine sensibility): at the end of your days, you're not gonna say, "Damn, I had WAAAAAAY too many blowjobs"

 

[bri]

I can relate... definitely not sure how any of this "dating" shit works anymore - the older you get, the more your dating pool shrinks and the more you have to find ways to meet people outside of you safe little groups. Add in some low self-esteem and it only gets more difficult. Alas... I must sugar my own churro.



With that said Soaps, you're young enough to lay all your cards on the table and wear your heart on your sleeve. So do it. Revel in your youth (while still using protection).



My buddy had some sage-like advice (and feel free to change it for a more feminine sensibility): at the end of your days, you're not gonna say, "Damn, I had WAAAAAAY too many blowjobs"

Is that why you've been so cranky lately? I have been concerned about you. Your childlike innocence and sense of fun has vanished. Your like an adult now or something.

 

[TSD]

I was referring to you giving yourself a year. You need the time to heal and readjust.

Ah. You should have bolded it.



Yes I am somewhat intelligent and realize starting a relationship too soon would simply be a replacement to fill the void and that isnt fair to all parties involved. Ive had a good example of what not to do in my brother, the dude cant exist without a woman, he gets out of a relationship hes back in another one within a couple weeks, and hes homeless so I dont even know how he does it.



When I do, I will probably go the online route, as like everyone I know and everyone they know is taken and seriously, meeting some broad in a bar for a "relationship" is just wierd to me.



Then again ive perused some online dating sites and I want to choke half the women on there. "I want to be treated like a princess" "must spoil me" etc etc etc. FUUUUUUUCCCCKKKK YYYYOOOUUUU. Im not down with women like that. I dont want some whiney little fuckin princess. Also, what the **** is with these phrases "Needs to be able to hold his own in a conversation" what the **** does that even mean? Half these women have a goddamn laundry list of bullshit. I swear, It drove me to want to make a website where I critique womens dating profiles.

 

[supraman]

Like Jako said, go after the nerd. Most nerds are good guys. As for douchebags, if it walks like a douchebag, talks like a douchebag, it's a douchebag.

 

[bri]

Ah. You should have bolded it.



Yes I am somewhat intelligent and realize starting a relationship too soon would simply be a replacement to fill the void and that isnt fair to all parties involved. Ive had a good example of what not to do in my brother, the dude cant exist without a woman, he gets out of a relationship hes back in another one within a couple weeks, and hes homeless so I dont even know how he does it.



When I do, I will probably go the online route, as like everyone I know and everyone they know is taken and seriously, meeting some broad in a bar for a "relationship" is just wierd to me.



Then again ive perused some online dating sites and I want to choke half the women on there. "I want to be treated like a princess" "must spoil me" etc etc etc. FUUUUUUUCCCCKKKK YYYYOOOUUUU. Im not down with women like that. I dont want some whiney little fuckin princess. Also, what the **** is with these phrases "Needs to be able to hold his own in a conversation" what the **** does that even mean? Half these women have a goddamn laundry list of bullshit. I swear, It drove me to want to make a website where I critique womens dating profiles.

A few years ago I had a friend that wanted to try E harmony. She pleaded with me to do it too cause she didn't want to do it alone. My profile came back that I was undatable or unmatchable because I was considered too conflicted. That did wonders for my self esteem. Although I guess it does confirm the fact that I am one of kind. I have had several people tell me that in my life and they actually meant it as a good thing.

 

[TSD]

A few years ago I had a friend that wanted to try E harmony. She pleaded with me to do it too cause she didn't want to do it alone. My profile came back that I was undatable or unmatchable because I was considered too conflicted. That did wonders for my self esteem. Although I guess it does confirm the fact that I am one of kind. I have had several people tell me that in my life and they actually meant it as a good thing.

Eharmony wouldnt let me make a profile because I am an atheist. No fuckin joke. They dont like Godless heathens on that site.

 

[bri]

Eharmony wouldnt let me make a profile because I am an atheist. No fuckin joke. They dont like Godless heathens on that site.

How are other atheists suppose to hook up? That's kind of discrimination. Sue the bastards.