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For the record it wasn't aimed at you either, Ares. Just a general rant :)
 

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I've worked my share of shit service jobs and found being nice, rather than grumbling, made the day better, for me. Asshole customers aren't worth it, and I would never allow one to affect my day.
 

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For the record it wasn't aimed at you either, Ares. Just a general rant :)

Thanks.... I always try to be polite and kind to people in service jobs.... lol the drive thru people are often a little taken aback when I come thru at the Dunkin near my house.... the Taco Bell people are always surprised to hear a "Thank You".

I also try to tip well to people who need the tips.... waiters/waitresses.... the guys who towel dry the cars at the car wash..... I always give a good tip to the girls who cut my hair.... whichever one gets me right before Christmas gets a double tip :D
 

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Thanks.... I always try to be polite and kind to people in service jobs.... lol the drive thru people are often a little taken aback when I come thru at the Dunkin near my house.... the Taco Bell people are always surprised to hear a "Thank You".

I also try to tip well to people who need the tips.... waiters/waitresses.... the guys who towel dry the cars at the car wash..... I always give a good tip to the girls who cut my hair.... whichever one gets me right before Christmas gets a double tip :D

You let girls cut your hair?
 

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I've always agreed with the adage that a good judge of a person's character is how they treat people who can do nothing for them. I extend that to how people treat service staff. They put up with a lot for very little.
 

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You judging me brah?

Not at all. I am a barber guy but to each their own. You should consider finding a barbershop though, they get to know your hair and the eay you roll. my barber talks to me about pussy, shooting rabid racoons he catches tearing up his trash, black people, and the pope. He charges 12 bucks and if he wasnt such a character, my haircut would be done in eight minutes. Isnt getting your hair did by different girls all the time awkward?
 

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I had a barber when I lived in NY but haven't been able to find a good one in Chicago. If I went to one in my neighborhood I would end up with a hipster haircut, or like "the National" shaved into the back of my head. So I just go to Great Clips by my work.
 

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Not at all. I am a barber guy but to each their own. You should consider finding a barbershop though, they get to know your hair and the eay you roll. my barber talks to me about pussy, shooting rabid racoons he catches tearing up his trash, black people, and the pope. He charges 12 bucks and if he wasnt such a character, my haircut would be done in eight minutes. Isnt getting your hair did by different girls all the time awkward?

Eh not really.... I usually know the 3-4 of them that will be around the day I go in... plus the bitches at Sports Clips near me wear yoga pants.... if there is a wait its worth the wait.

Funny side story.... in college freshman year I went to Great Clips to get a haircut.... it was cheap and near the Meijer.... anyways I go in and tell the lady a 1 on the sides and back and finger length on top and she grabs a 1 and runs it right through the middle of my head..... I was so shocked I didn't know what to do at first.... and she was like "Wha's wrong?" (she was Latino and the English was a little broken) and I said "I wanted a 1 just on the sides and back and finger length with scissors on top" and she goes "Ohhhhh.... okayyyy, well there's not much we can do now".... I was like "Ya fucking think?" so I just had to let her finish making me in to a Jarhead lol. Got back to my dorm with my hat on and my roommate knew something was off.... I take my hat off an show him and he and my other buddy just died fucking laughing.... I kinda did too.
 

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lol. That happened to me in high school. I went to this "cool", older (20s) girl who cut my hair and sold me shrooms (the one and only time I ever did them). They'd just moved to a new place and had champagne from their grand opening and she gave me some even though I was only 16. I guess she had been drinking for a while because she just ran the clippers from one side of my head all the way to the other, from ear to ear, so buzz cut it would be.

I was a naive ******. This could have been a penthouse forum letter and a better story.
 

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When I had a previous job and was making some pretty decent money...I'd occasionally request my groceries to be taken out and placed in my vehicle for me. If the bag boy did it w/out grumbling about me being perfectly able, I'd tip him $10 or $15. Eventually, they caught on, and 3 ppl would go to the register I was checking out at.

That was a fun game for me. :shrug:

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I worked in a grocery store bagging groceries as a high school kid and i would say you are under no pressure to bag your own groceries. Sometimes i will bag my own if i am with my wife they are really busy, otherwise they should bag the groceries.

I think the real problem lies in that young people have no clue what customer service is. Even if the checker was pissed that you diddn't bag she should never let on and treat a customer that way.
 

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A necro-bump, but I had a fellow employee chide me for telling someone of an item that is on the 2-day sale tomorrow and Thursday, when that information is public knowledge.

The situation was that the woman was looking for $1 baked beans, I told her "Oh these are $0.98 tomorrow and Thursday, but we don't have any today."

Her heart was set on the $1 product, not in buying a regular ($1.50) can of baked beans.

My job at the store is to help customers, not to try and dupe them into making the store a buck.
 

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A necro-bump, but I had a fellow employee chide me for telling someone of an item that is on the 2-day sale tomorrow and Thursday, when that information is public knowledge.

The situation was that the woman was looking for $1 baked beans, I told her "Oh these are $0.98 tomorrow and Thursday, but we don't have any today."

Her heart was set on the $1 product, not in buying a regular ($1.50) can of baked beans.

My job at the store is to help customers, not to try and dupe them into making the store a buck.

If your fellow employee is not your boss, tell them to stfu and eat a dick
 

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Ok so I just got back from grocery shopping and I wanna see what you guys think about an interaction I had.

I finished shopping and went to checkout, the line I got in had 2 people in front of me, and when I got in the line there was a girl at the register and an older lady bagging the groceries. I get up and the bagging lady walks off and leaves the register girl on her own. She scans half my stuff and it backs up at the end corral thingy and so she stops, bags it up and hands it all to me and then scans the other half, hands it all to me. Now I pay and the receipt prints out and as she hands it to me she goes "And someone would be HAPPY to take your groceries to your car FOR you" and it seemed a little odd and I walked off.

So I load my stuff in my truck and I start trying to decipher why she seemed bitchy towards me and I came up with this question:

Is there some unwritten rule or Etiquette or Courtesy or Social Contract that says you are supposed to jump in and bag for the register person at the grocery store if their bagger walks off?

I honestly had never encountered this so I wasn't sure after the fact if I had violated some unknown pact we make with grocery store employees to pitch in and bag if the baggers are absent for some reason?

If I was an asshole feel free to say it lol, I just am not sure.
Nothing that says you should bag 'em. Sometimes I'll do it if I'm in a rush, I'll bag it just cause I know I can do it much faster than these lazy shits anyway. I like the stores with those self checkout lines too so I don't have to deal with any dimwits with attitude.
 

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