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I'm in a slight dilemma so,eh, maybe CCS could offer some advice?
The situation is myself and a pretty good friend of mine are back home after having graduated college(last year). I got an engineering degree and do research for a local R&D company(while still looking for other work, but really I'm doing "gap" work/research before going back to school for a PhD).
My friend was in Seminary but had to leave towards the end of his college tenure(with seminary, you have to get a degree from a university, usually philosophy, which he did get). He was asked to leave Seminary because of his lack of maturity,not in the trouble making sense. He's still thinking about returning to seminary in a year or two, but he substitute teaches as of the moment.
Anyway, we hung out tonight, and it was fine(good to see him as always). But..the thing is that I'm agnostic. That really isn't a big deal, but considering that he is a very religious person and religion is a big part of his life, it's a little problematic.
I've been able to kind of avoid really discussing religion with him, or at least on a more particularly personal level, as of late. I actually did go to a mass because I helped him set up a small band to play at some ceremony at a local church. But he's been inviting me to go to church with him a number of times outside of that, and he knows I haven't gone much in a while. He asked me today about going Sunday.
I don't want to say no, but I can't keep using the "I can't make it, I'm busy" excuse or some other BS. At some point, I have to tell him. I'm just a little worried he wont take it so well. Really nice guy, but religion is very important to him. I also feel like he'll see that as a point to try to get me back into the church, and try even harder. But I have no desire to really go back.
Not exactly sure how to handle this one...
The situation is myself and a pretty good friend of mine are back home after having graduated college(last year). I got an engineering degree and do research for a local R&D company(while still looking for other work, but really I'm doing "gap" work/research before going back to school for a PhD).
My friend was in Seminary but had to leave towards the end of his college tenure(with seminary, you have to get a degree from a university, usually philosophy, which he did get). He was asked to leave Seminary because of his lack of maturity,not in the trouble making sense. He's still thinking about returning to seminary in a year or two, but he substitute teaches as of the moment.
Anyway, we hung out tonight, and it was fine(good to see him as always). But..the thing is that I'm agnostic. That really isn't a big deal, but considering that he is a very religious person and religion is a big part of his life, it's a little problematic.
I've been able to kind of avoid really discussing religion with him, or at least on a more particularly personal level, as of late. I actually did go to a mass because I helped him set up a small band to play at some ceremony at a local church. But he's been inviting me to go to church with him a number of times outside of that, and he knows I haven't gone much in a while. He asked me today about going Sunday.
I don't want to say no, but I can't keep using the "I can't make it, I'm busy" excuse or some other BS. At some point, I have to tell him. I'm just a little worried he wont take it so well. Really nice guy, but religion is very important to him. I also feel like he'll see that as a point to try to get me back into the church, and try even harder. But I have no desire to really go back.
Not exactly sure how to handle this one...
