And that can be the problem. I can;t have it go on my record as I might get dropped. I already have one car claim and two home claims the past two years. I love the system.....NOT
You have to make a hard decision.
The fly by night insurance companies will drag the process out and lowball you the entire way and they count on you not being willing to jump the hurdles. their reputation is garbage, their coverage is garbage, and this is how they make money.
If you are not to blame, your insurance should not penalize you- unfortunately it appears you did not document that fact.
You dropped the ball according to the allstate site.
They want you to call the police and wait at the scene.
The other guy probably claims it was your fault. Where was the impact? did you get rear ended, or is the damage elsewhere?
Since there were no cops on the scene, he could make up any story he wants and it will be just as believable as yours unfortunately.
Unfortunately you either take the claim to your guy and suffer the consequences of not getting the cops out there or take the shit company to court.