Vent about your wife/GF thread

[Tater]

well, this probably isn't the right thread since she left me three weeks ago but this is my ( long ) story. Forgive me for all the grammar errors i'm going to do because i'm italian. Me and my ex have been togheter for three years but here comes the first problem, we live 150 km away i live and work in Milano and she lives and and just today graduated in college in Torino. Second problem i work night shift, i work as security guard in a bank and it also means ( apart from risk my life every damn night ) to work on sundays, Christmas, Easter and so on, so since i always work sat and sun and since sat and sun were the only days she didn't go to college we see eachothers four or five times during a month. Beacuse i suppose things were not complicated enough in July my previous company lost the contract with the bank where i work, so a new company arrived and yes they kept me but they make me work now six nights a week ( before i worked five ) so less time for see eachothers, to get things even more complicated to me in the same period in July my father attempted to suicide, fortunaly he has been found just in time, so this gave me more problems in leave Milano for go see her in Torino. Three weeks ago as i said she left me because she said she can't go on this way and now that she starts to work she has no time for this kind of relationship and so on, probably she doesn't love me anymore but i think that everything that happened to me contributed in make up her feelings and this makes me very sad because is like i get unlucky and i pay the price for be unlucky. I'm going on as i always did, i went to work the day after my father attempted to suicide just to tell you how i need to be strong for my mother and my brother, but to see the pictures today of her getting graduated with all our friends with only me missing ( obviously she didn't invite me ) was really something bad, it's why i need to vent about this situation, to see those pictures really hurt me, i've been by her side iall those years and i'm the only one outside of her life now

Sorry all this has happened A.C. and I truly hope things improve for you.


I'm also kind of surprised a bank is even open on Sunday, Christmas and Easter in Italy. Is it that way everywhere there?

 

[A.C. Milan]

Sorry all this has happened A.C. and I truly hope things improve for you.


I'm also kind of surprised a bank is even open on Sunday, Christmas and Easter in Italy. Is it that way everywhere there?

Thank you, banks here are closed on sat afternoon, sunday and holidays but this group i work for wants 24/7 security, i worked three Easters and four Christmas

 

[LordKOTL]

Brutal. I take it changing jobs was out of the question?

 

[KittiesKorner]

well, this probably isn't the right thread since she left me three weeks ago but this is my ( long ) story. Forgive me for all the grammar errors i'm going to do because i'm italian. Me and my girl have been togheter for three years but here comes the first problem, we live 150 km away i live and work in Milano and she lives and and just today graduated in college in Torino. Second problem i work night shift, i work as security guard in a bank and it also means ( apart from risk my life every damn night ) to work on sundays, Christmas, Easter and so on, so since i always work sat and sun and since sat and sun were the only days she didn't go to college we see eachothers four or five times during a month. Beacuse i suppose things were not complicated enough in July my previous company lost the contract with the bank where i work, so a new company arrived and yes they kept me but they make me work now six nights a week ( before i worked five ) so less time for see eachothers, to get things even more complicated to me in the same period in July my father attempted to suicide, fortunaly he has been found just in time, so this gave me more problems in leave Milano for go see her in Torino. Three weeks ago as i said she left me because she said she can't go on this way and now that she starts to work she has no time for this kind of relationship and so on, probably she doesn't love me anymore but i think that everything that happened to me contributed in make up her feelings and this makes me very sad because is like i get unlucky and i pay the price for be unlucky. I'm going on as i always did, i went to work the day after my father attempted to suicide just to tell you how i need to be strong for my mother and my brother, but to see the pictures today of her getting graduated with all our friends with only me missing ( obviously she didn't invite me ) was really something bad, it's why i need to vent about this situation, to see those pictures really hurt me, i've been by her side iall those years and i'm the only one outside of her life now

Sorry man. Hope things look up 4 u

 

[Chief Walking Stick]

well, this probably isn't the right thread since she left me three weeks ago but this is my ( long ) story. Forgive me for all the grammar errors i'm going to do because i'm italian. Me and my girl have been togheter for three years but here comes the first problem, we live 150 km away i live and work in Milano and she lives and and just today graduated in college in Torino. Second problem i work night shift, i work as security guard in a bank and it also means ( apart from risk my life every damn night ) to work on sundays, Christmas, Easter and so on, so since i always work sat and sun and since sat and sun were the only days she didn't go to college we see eachothers four or five times during a month. Beacuse i suppose things were not complicated enough in July my previous company lost the contract with the bank where i work, so a new company arrived and yes they kept me but they make me work now six nights a week ( before i worked five ) so less time for see eachothers, to get things even more complicated to me in the same period in July my father attempted to suicide, fortunaly he has been found just in time, so this gave me more problems in leave Milano for go see her in Torino. Three weeks ago as i said she left me because she said she can't go on this way and now that she starts to work she has no time for this kind of relationship and so on, probably she doesn't love me anymore but i think that everything that happened to me contributed in make up her feelings and this makes me very sad because is like i get unlucky and i pay the price for be unlucky. I'm going on as i always did, i went to work the day after my father attempted to suicide just to tell you how i need to be strong for my mother and my brother, but to see the pictures today of her getting graduated with all our friends with only me missing ( obviously she didn't invite me ) was really something bad, it's why i need to vent about this situation, to see those pictures really hurt me, i've been by her side iall those years and i'm the only one outside of her life now

Rough times, man. Hope things start looking up and you get some good luck in 2016!

Hang in there.

 

[Xuder O'Clam]

My heart declares a holiday for A.C. Milan

 

[Tjodalv]

Simple truth: long distance relationships never work.

 

[Tater]

Maybe she just needs:

 

[LordKOTL]

Simple truth: long distance relationships never work.

I think my wife and I were the only ones to ever make one work, but there were caveats.

For one, our relationship when LD was like a military one. Your S/O is separated from you, and you accept that as part of the relationship, but when you're together you're not putting up a front. A lot of LDRs, both parties put of a front and try to "impress" their S/O--primarily because of a limited time factor and they can try to be more to their partner's liking for a short period of time, as opposed to just being themselves. It helped that we spent months together rather than a week here and there--there was time to relax.

Secondly, we both got "playing around" out of our system before getting into it. If there's a drive to screw that's unfulfilled it will deep-6 the relationship in a hurry, unless it's open. If you're sated, it's got a chance.

Lastly, we had an endgame in mind. We planed out around what was making the relationship long distance, and planed to make it not long distance and had a gameplan. Most people when they get into a LDR don't. They usually get separated, or start separated, but just go with the relationship feel and emotions--they don't try to bring it close--and that usually requires one or both parties to make a huge change--not many people can or are willing to do it.