Vent about your wife/GF thread

[xer0h0ur]

We've been Married 20 years next month. I gave her a Bears schedule when we were dating and told her we could do anything she wanted the other 6 days and 20 hours of the week but that I wanted to watch EVERY GAME. She wasnt a football fan but agreed to my request. Over the years she has learned the game and I encouraged her, anytime she made a comment about a rule or playcall I would tell her "you are so sexy when you talk football".

Flash forward 20 years and she has her own jersey, knows the roster enough to say " when did we pick up that guy" and watches 90% of the games. I have been asked to record a game once in our time together and that was an family get together that I would have put first as well. She carries a schedule in her purse and tells people " sorry cant make it, there is a Bears game" when asked to do something.


Honestly I don't think I desreve this woman sometimes.

 

[ruprecht]

Men are visual for a reason.Women wear make up for a reason.
I'm not saying you base it all on that but it's part of the definition of attraction. If I don't find you attractive, I don't care how great your personality is. I will never want anything to do with overweight woman or a woman ok with gaining weight when comfortable in a relationship.
Lol,where that rant just came from: I moved to Salem Oregon six weeks ago and everyone here is fat and white lol

You should have moved up closer to Portland. We are all beautiful here and Asian women grow on trees.

 

[Tater]

You should have moved up closer to Portland. We are all beautiful here and Asian women grow on trees.

Oriental Pear trees? http://bexar-tx.tamu.edu/earth-kind...eat-fruit-tree-for-the-san-antonio-homeowner/

 

[Dogstar]

Oriental Pear trees? http://bexar-tx.tamu.edu/earth-kind...eat-fruit-tree-for-the-san-antonio-homeowner/

That's racist.

 

[SERE Bear]

Point is though, if you really like a girl... the whole "But what if it ruins our friendship" thing is bullshit.... it's insecurity... you could make that argument about a million other things with other friends.

 

[Urblock]

:lmao: 12 I think. Time to go to bed. Probably won't do this again if I'm allowed to post in the future. Good night my friends.

 

[Mr. Cub]

**** bitches. They suck. Literally and figuratively.

 

[Urblock]

**** bitches. They suck. Literally and figuratively.

Are you telling us that you're ***?

 

[Mr. Cub]

Are you telling us that you're ***?

Absolutely not... Just saying bitches be crazy and they suck. Relationship wise anyway.

 

[remydat]

Bitches are like sharks. They like to test you and they will circle their prey and go into a frenzy if they smell blood in the water. So you just need to punch them in the face (figuratively speaking of course. No Jim Johnson) and eventually they will go off and play with other sharks leaving you free to enjoy the territory you have established and then return at a time more amenably to you.

Now every once in a while you will meet a ***** that's like a Great White Shark and in those rare instances the above methodology is unlikely to bear fruit. In that scenario then it becomes a balance act of trying to extract as much enjoyment out of the situation as you can but getting out before she literally cuts your dick off. I recommend erring on the side of caution and getting the **** out the water once you identify it is in fact a Great White.

 

[KittiesKorner]

Sharks, bearing fruit, balancing act, and emasculation -- that is one of the most tortured, amazing mixed metaphors i've ever read!



No more burnt croissanwiches btw

 

[LordKOTL]

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It's almost like she wants me to miss it so I can prove how much I like her, which, if that's true, is lame as shit.
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Rehashing, but I wanted to get back to this awhile ago. I know a lot of girls pull this. It's like they want some kind of reassurance that you indeed value them more than whatever else du jure. So they try to test you.

Where their logic falls flat and what guys fail to realize is this. There's a disconnect in how both genders see it. Men tend to quantify and place a precedence on the activity. i.e. "Is football more important than going to a craft store?" Women tend to see it as social, "Is football more important than hanging out with me?" The disconnect is that men don't see the social aspect of it, and the women fail to see that there's priority and importance involved above and beyond simply spending time together. It helps to realize this from both sides. Your woman needs to know that what she wants you to do with her in leiu of what you want to do is important. You need to realize that she's wanting to spend time with you and that by watching football and essentially passively exclusing her (if she's not a football fan), yu're isolating her especially if you're 100% hard up that you will never do anything non-emergency on a Sunday with her 'cause it will cut into your football time.

IMHO. Communication. Effective communication. You both have to listen to each other and hear what the other is actually saying and what their concerns are--knowing very well that the whole mindset is different between you both.

All a matter of priorities. My wife doesn't care ****-all about football, but she's a hell of a lot more important to me and my family then carving out a day of football-slothiness. I just record the games and watch them in the evening/night, and I can enjoy the games without stuffing my face and/or getting shit-faced (although I can relate). Problem solved.

Then again, I care far more about hockey and NCAAF then I do NFL.

I'm somewhat similar (even though my wife *likes* hockey and rugby but is not a fan, and hates soccer. I communicate with her what games I consider high priority (i.e. Stanley Cup playoffs, rivalry games, Cascadia Derby, etc.) and the rest I can push. She's okay with this because she knows that even the highest priorities can be set aside for emergencies, but on the other hand she knows I'll be willing to catch a lesser game later so we can spend time together.

At least my wife and I agree on not giving a flying rat's ass about gridiron football. In fact, we consider Super Bowl Sunday national Road-trip day.

You are.

FWIW, I have close friends who are marriages counselors and based on your comments here I'm not sure you really understand what goes on in those sessions.

I've personally seen counseling and reading save relationships.

I've read both and IMO both authors are pretty much spot on. Can't really disagree with anything they said.

I agree on councelling being a good thing. Unfortunately the way things are now is that you had a bunch of self-centered and selfish baby boomers raising a bunch of self-centered and selfish Gen-X'ers who are raising a bunch of self-centered and selfish Millenials. The problem is that by the time they get into an actual relationship they're still self-centered and selfish, and think the relationship revolves around them. Counseling can help solve that. The problem is that many people see counseling or therapy as a failure, and tend to not want to do it.

Jesus guys. My wife is my best friend. Maybe I'm just lucky.

I in general agree with this. My wife is my best friend when everything is considered. I think this helps in a relationship. If you can't get along well any time you're not doinking then it will never last.

I also am wondering what man in his right mind would worry about "ruining a friendship" by trying to get invoved with a really good ladyfriend. That's highschool girl speak there! If you know there's a woman out there that you get aloong well with and there's at least some level of mutual attraction and you *don't* go for it? I mean, if you're just looking for a place to bury your dick for the night than yeah but if you want a relationship that is the type to go for.

 

[BearFanJohn]

I learned from a relationship previous to my (happily married for 23 years) that once a relationship goes past a couple of dates, things like Bears games gets understood completely and without any confusion. Right up front, "I have watched the Bears play since I was 5 years old. I might, might, miss one game per year that isn't on TV. In those days, there a few that wouldn't be televised in my area. I am going to watch every Bears game from this day forward. If this is going to be an issue lets get it out of the way right now and permanently. I am not going to change this, I may change many things for you, but this is not going to be one of them and there isn't going to be a negotiation."

It isn't going to be a bargaining chip, either. There will be no, "Fine, you can watch the Bears game but then we're going antiquing/shopping/see may parents, either. Same thing with golf: At the time, I played golf with my Dad, my cousin and his son every Sunday at 10:00am. That is rarely going to change. If we are going to fight about it lets get it out now or before I play if its going to be an issue on a particular Sunday. There is nothing worse than trying to have fun, play a good round of golf,(or watch a game) knowing there is going to be hell to pay when you get home. That only gives both you time to stew.

Now, I am certainly not saying that I didn't or don't ever miss a game. But it is very uncommon. And we haven't had a fight about it either in decades. Up front and honest from the beginning. The testing or insecurity issues on their part are real. So you have to make a lot (a lot) of effort in all other areas of the relationship. A good relationship is a lot of work, a lot of give & take and a lot of compromise so pick your battles. And you may find yourself at a book club, neighborhood BBQ, yard sale, whatever, and, when you do, grin and fucking bear it.

And, by the way, my wife has missed very, very few Bear games since we got married. It was a lot easier for her to get into the Bears than to spend the rest of the relationship fighting.

 

[remydat]

The best solution to the problem is just let her give you a ******* while you sit back and watch the game. That why you get to watch football and she gets to spend quality time with you. It's a win win for everyone.

 

[Tater]

The best solution to the problem is just let her give you a ******* while you sit back and watch the game. That why you get to watch football and she gets to spend quality time with you. It's a win win for everyone.

Best idea yet in this thread. :buttrock:

 

[IBleedBearsBlood]

Got me a good woman I would say. Been married to her for 5 years. I let her know I watch Bears football and football in general. So when football is on tv, I'm watching and she don't mind. She roots for the Bears because I like them but doesn't watch them much. But when my Bears come to Houston, she always wants to go with me to the game. She makes plans or does her own things on Sunday, Monday night, and Thursday nights. Every year she says, "ah hell, football season is here" but never complains. Like truthbedamned said, probably is the paycheck that is there on the 15th and the 30th. Works for me.


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[MIKETOUHY]

Does anyone else need to vent about their wife or GF or maybe both? Do it here!


I've been with my gf for about 18 months now... Before we started dating, I told her that all I do on Sunday's is pretty much watch football all day. I haven't missed a football Sunday in like 15 years. For the longest time, I always got together with my friends every Sunday so we can just watch/talk football and shit. Over the last couple of years, some of them have moved away, so our group has shrunk significantly... but the 3 of us that are left will still get together most Sundays. And even if I'm alone, I still watch football. Especially because I pay for Sunday Ticket.

Anyway... so before we started dating, she was all like, "that's so cute how you and your friends do that!." Then we started dating, and last season was the first season we were together. She was kind of bothered by it, but never really said anything. This year? Holy ****. We're on week 3, and we've gotten into an argument every week so far. Not only that, but it's like she makes it a fuckin point to make plans on Sunday, and when I say I can't make it because I'm going to be watching football, she told me, "Of course. It's always football with you. Football and then everything else. Like I don't even matter." WTF. We do shit all the time on other days, and she generally never wants to do shit on Sunday because she has work and school the next day and doesn't wanna be too tired. Last week for example, she told me she wanted to go to Cirque du Soleil.... on Sunday of course. I didn't say anything, and made it seem like I didn't want to go. So I surprised her and bought tickets on Friday, because she wasn't expecting it. She was happy.... then come Sunday, she was pissed because I "never want to spend time with her anymore."

:enough:

I don't think it's a bad thing that you watch football every Sunday.

I might suggest if there are times that you can't get together with her Friday Nights or Saturdays them maybe give in sometimes.

Otherwise you're not off.

 

[delbjork1937]

We

You should have moved up closer to Portland. We are all beautiful here and Asian women grow on trees.

We? Shuuuuut up : /

 

[FirstTimer]

Rehashing, but I wanted to get back to this awhile ago. I know a lot of girls pull this. It's like they want some kind of reassurance that you indeed value them more than whatever else du jure. So they try to test you.

Where their logic falls flat and what guys fail to realize is this. There's a disconnect in how both genders see it. Men tend to quantify and place a precedence on the activity. i.e. "Is football more important than going to a craft store?" Women tend to see it as social, "Is football more important than hanging out with me?" The disconnect is that men don't see the social aspect of it, and the women fail to see that there's priority and importance involved above and beyond simply spending time together. It helps to realize this from both sides. Your woman needs to know that what she wants you to do with her in leiu of what you want to do is important. You need to realize that she's wanting to spend time with you and that by watching football and essentially passively exclusing her (if she's not a football fan), yu're isolating her especially if you're 100% hard up that you will never do anything non-emergency on a Sunday with her 'cause it will cut into your football time.

IMHO. Communication. Effective communication. You both have to listen to each other and hear what the other is actually saying and what their concerns are--knowing very well that the whole mindset is different between you both.


I'm somewhat similar (even though my wife *likes* hockey and rugby but is not a fan, and hates soccer. I communicate with her what games I consider high priority (i.e. Stanley Cup playoffs, rivalry games, Cascadia Derby, etc.) and the rest I can push. She's okay with this because she knows that even the highest priorities can be set aside for emergencies, but on the other hand she knows I'll be willing to catch a lesser game later so we can spend time together.

At least my wife and I agree on not giving a flying rat's ass about gridiron football. In fact, we consider Super Bowl Sunday national Road-trip day.


I agree on councelling being a good thing. Unfortunately the way things are now is that you had a bunch of self-centered and selfish baby boomers raising a bunch of self-centered and selfish Gen-X'ers who are raising a bunch of self-centered and selfish Millenials. The problem is that by the time they get into an actual relationship they're still self-centered and selfish, and think the relationship revolves around them. Counseling can help solve that. The problem is that many people see counseling or therapy as a failure, and tend to not want to do it.


I in general agree with this. My wife is my best friend when everything is considered. I think this helps in a relationship. If you can't get along well any time you're not doinking then it will never last.

I also am wondering what man in his right mind would worry about "ruining a friendship" by trying to get invoved with a really good ladyfriend. That's highschool girl speak there! If you know there's a woman out there that you get aloong well with and there's at least some level of mutual attraction and you *don't* go for it? I mean, if you're just looking for a place to bury your dick for the night than yeah but if you want a relationship that is the type to go for.

This is the best post in this thread.

 

[A.C. Milan]

well, this probably isn't the right thread since she left me three weeks ago but this is my ( long ) story. Forgive me for all the grammar errors i'm going to do because i'm italian. Me and my girl have been togheter for three years but here comes the first problem, we live 150 km away i live and work in Milano and she lives and and just today graduated in college in Torino. Second problem i work night shift, i work as security guard in a bank and it also means ( apart from risk my life every damn night ) to work on sundays, Christmas, Easter and so on, so since i always work sat and sun and since sat and sun were the only days she didn't go to college we see eachothers four or five times during a month. Beacuse i suppose things were not complicated enough in July my previous company lost the contract with the bank where i work, so a new company arrived and yes they kept me but they make me work now six nights a week ( before i worked five ) so less time for see eachothers, to get things even more complicated to me in the same period in July my father attempted to suicide, fortunaly he has been found just in time, so this gave me more problems in leave Milano for go see her in Torino. Three weeks ago as i said she left me because she said she can't go on this way and now that she starts to work she has no time for this kind of relationship and so on, probably she doesn't love me anymore but i think that everything that happened to me contributed in make up her feelings and this makes me very sad because is like i get unlucky and i pay the price for be unlucky. I'm going on as i always did, i went to work the day after my father attempted to suicide just to tell you how i need to be strong for my mother and my brother, but to see the pictures today of her getting graduated with all our friends with only me missing ( obviously she didn't invite me ) was really something bad, it's why i need to vent about this situation, to see those pictures really hurt me, i've been by her side iall those years and i'm the only one outside of her life now