If your mom got fat...

[Dogstar]

Totally disagree

Marriage is meant to strengthen the family unit

You can see how society is falling apart with the marriage rates going down and divorce rates going up
A moral society starts with the family unit..Without either, were just a bunch of individuals fucking. Kids get no direction from parents that way

Well, that's what it's meant to do, maybe... I think that may have been true 40-50 years ago, but I could probably think of bunch of other reasons why society has gone down the shitter... and if anything, marriage is just a victim to it all.

Either way, parenting is so far removed from what it was 40 years ago. Half the shit I see kids getting away with these days would have gotten me wiped out when I was growing up.

 

[Penny Traitor]

Why did you marry and not keep her as a gf?

I know this was not directed my way, but I just thought I would share with the class.

I never wanted kids and have seen that through...so marriage always seemed like an formality I never really needed to be a part of.

Then in my mid thirties I started dating this woman. It was not some Hollywood love at first sight BS, but the longer I dated her...the more I realized I just did not want to date anyone else. So after living together for a few years without killing each other...we got got married on a whim during a vacation. Been almost a decade now and I still don't want to be with anyone else.

No kids...no religion...no family...no peer pressure. I just found the person I want to spend the bulk of my time on planet Earth with...and she totally puts out to boot!

 

[brett05]

I figured as much. But that's ok. I already know you think you're better than the rest of us... which is fine, as long as you don't mind coming across like a judgmental ...

If you really read my posts you'd know I've said many times that I am no better than anyone. But go ahead and tool on

 

[bearmick]

I know this was not directed my way, but I just thought I would share with the class.

I never wanted kids and have seen that through...so marriage always seemed like an formality I never really needed to be a part of.

Then in my mid thirties I started dating this woman. It was not some Hollywood love at first sight BS, but the longer I dated her...the more I realized I just did not want to date anyone else. So after living together for a few years without killing each other...we got got married on a whim during a vacation. Been almost a decade now and I still don't want to be with anyone else.

No kids...no religion...no family...no peer pressure. I just found the person I want to spend the bulk of my time on planet Earth with...and she totally puts out to boot!

That sounds perfect. I don't want kids either, but I live in a fairly small city in the Midwest where most women have them by the time they're 22. Part of the reason I'm moving away from here is because finding a fun, honest, intelligent, cultured and sexy woman who doesn't want kids is pretty much impossible in this town.

 

[Bearin' Down]

Brett, how fat is your wife?

So, you've lost the argument, now you're trolling. Nice.

 

[Iwritecode]

Marriage is peer pressure & guilt trips, wrapped in worn out tradition and topped with a pretty government incentive bow. I guarantee you that I wouldn't love my wife (& kids) any less if she were my "girlfriend". Unfortunately, people like you and the rest of society make sure to carry on the ridiculous notion that living with someone or having sex is wrong... until you stand up in front of an audience, sign a fancy piece of paper and blow 20 grand on a dinner party.

My parents got married literally on my dad’s lunch hour. They went to the courthouse, got married and he went back to work. That was 40+ years ago and they are still together.

I have an aunt that has lived with her boyfriend for almost the same amount of time. They have kids together but never officially got married.

The legal benefits are nice but there is nothing forcing you to get married or spend a small fortune if/when you do.

 

[Dogstar]

If you really read my posts you'd know I've said many times that I am no better than anyone. But go ahead and tool on

You can say it all you want, but that alone doesn't make it true.

 

[brett05]

You can say it all you want, but that alone doesn't make it true.

That's true. But anytime you need it clarified....ask

 

[Ares]

That's true. But anytime you need it clarified....ask

Can you clarify this for me.... should I be seasoning my tortillas at all when I make quesadillas?

Damn wrong thread.... but still sorta on topic cause we're talkin about people getting fat.

 

[brett05]

No preseason

 

[Penny Traitor]

That sounds perfect. I don't want kids either, but I live in a fairly small city in the Midwest where most women have them by the time they're 22. Part of the reason I'm moving away from here is because finding a fun, honest, intelligent, cultured and sexy woman who doesn't want kids is pretty much impossible in this town.

There seemed to be two distinct windows in my early twenties of dodging wanna be mommies and my early thirties of far more desperate wanna be mommies or single mommies that made any real relationship for me impossible. Everyone wanting me to play father in some fashion and making me feel like I am the asshole because I was not into it.

Even the only other long term relationship I had...she assumed I would outgrow the no kids thing, but I held to it. Great example of two people trying to change each other's mindset and failing, but at least we did not do something stupid like get married and then deal with that issue.

What's funny is that, for me, it was coming home to Chicago where I met my one and only, but Chicago is an exception to the whole Midwest mindset.

 

[Ares]

No preseason

Cmon now brett, the rookies in the NFL need to get their reps.... (sorry I had to)

 

[bearmick]

Cmon now brett, the rookies in the NFL need to get their reps.... (sorry I had to)

Screw that noise, I wish we were playing Buffalo this weekend.

 

[L GUAPO]

The funny thing is that Guap will start talking about how he owned us all in this thread and he'll bring it up 2-3 years down the road. :lol:

Naah. I will just talk about how you still say ridiculous and wrong shit often because when you get defensive, the spewing starts. Here is something for you and you can tell me who this sounds like and how wrong and idiotic it sounds:

RTB....when you showed those whole 5 women at your work and they said they were disgusted, THEY NEVER SAID THAT! YOU ARE LYING AND EXAGERRATING. WOMEN NEVER SAY THAT...YOU ARE SOO WRONG BECAUSE I SAID SO.

Answer: That is how you incorrectly replied to my statement of the fact that women have actually said the words "dump that *****".

Do you see how wrong, idiotic, and stupid that sounds? That is what you said. I don't know why you would and then go further and say you didn't say women cannot..yoj said never instead to try to twist out of your incorrect ridiculous assumption....sad. You still haven't admit that that was a cowardly way out to not admit what a wrong statement that was but I guess that is just your way.

Keep it up brah lol

 

[L GUAPO]

Your continued use of the word "cool" says it all really

Yeah...you got me there. Women can't be cool.

Says the guy who claims outward looks gets a 0 on the marriage scale. I think.we all know what that means. Sorry man.

 

[L GUAPO]

Marriage is peer pressure & guilt trips, wrapped in worn out tradition and topped with a pretty government incentive bow. I guarantee you that I wouldn't love my wife (& kids) any less if she were my "girlfriend". Unfortunately, people like you and the rest of society make sure to carry on the ridiculous notion that living with someone or having sex is wrong... until you stand up in front of an audience, sign a fancy piece of paper and blow 20 grand on a dinner party.

People grow apart or get married for all the wrong reasons... all the time. I don't think it's right for people to have to live with a mistake and therefore a lifetime of misery while people like you sneer because they deviated from your self-righteous morals.


Yes, I do agree that divorcing someone over weight gain is a bit ridiculous, but there is also a turning point once it becomes a selfish/neglectful act.

Very well said. That is why some people get divorced and have a new found happiness....for both parties. It is a reality. But these high and mighty "classy" depressed guys would rather live a bit unhappy because they signed a piece of paper. I do agree one can love a girlfriend just as much and kids without a marriage certificate. It is happening more and more these days.

 

[Bearin' Down]

We should just resolve this by asking the simple question of how many of us are married or have been married? I think, for the most part, you'll find the opinions in this thread will align themselves according to those who have experience versus those of us who have none.

 

[brett05]

Yeah...you got me there. Women can't be cool.

Says the guy who claims outward looks gets a 0 on the marriage scale. I think.we all know what that means. Sorry man.

And your word knowledge says it all as well...

 

[Nail Polish]

We should just resolve this by asking the simple question of how many of us are married or have been married? I think, for the most part, you'll find the opinions in this thread will align themselves according to those who have experience versus those of us who have none.

31 years here...1st wife, still goin strong

 

[Bearin' Down]

31 years here...1st wife, still goin strong

Wow, that's a long time. I'm only at 4 years. Congrats.