Not getting excited about anything

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Xuder O'Clam said:
I want to ask you what you were diagnosed with, if it's not too personal. I was diagnosed with Ankylosing Spondylitis at a similar age to you. It crushed me for a bit, because doctors were telling me that my spine may be fused by the time I am 50. And I was a very active person. Well, I'm 50 now, still active, and have zero fusion in my spine.

Moving on, making plans are always better than constantly reminding your self of the bum deal you got.
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Not at all. I was diagnosed with Lupus and Sjogren's Syndrome. I think it became official at 22, but I felt shitty since around 19. From a mental standpoint, I was a wreck back then. Probably depressed. I stepped out of that, but then I just became pretty pessimistic.

Your advice is good, I just need to find a way to get there.
 
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Is there anyone else that just doesn't get excited about anything?

I haven't always felt this way. Feels like it's been happening more so as I've gotten older. I just don't look forward to anything, and things I used to be interested in just seem "meh" to me.

Has this happened to anyone else? Or is anyone else like this?

How did you go about getting excited about shit again?

Probably not the best place to ask, but **** it.
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I've been like this most of my life. Part of the reason I left The Bahamas so I wouldn't have to deal with friends and family always pestering about why I was a loner or didn't want to hang out or take part in all the shit you generally have to deal with regarding friends and family.

Spent my college years swamped with class, student government, sports and partying. None of which I could say I really enjoyed. It was more like that shit was fun while I was in the midst of it but the minute I had time to stop and think, I realized none of it really fulfilled me. Once I started work, I realized I would get bored with a city after a few years and so would transfer within my firm to another office. Good thing was they always had openings elsewhere and they covered the moving costs. So pretty much settled into a cycle of moving every 3-5 years usually reinventing myself each time along the way.

Eventually just figured out ways to keep my mind occupied so that I didn't have a lot of free moments to think. Whether it be work, reading, writing, or posting here, I generally am always doing something. Luckily I am at a stage in my career and relationships where I realized it really wasn't worth trying to mold my life based on what others thought or wanted me to be so I generally do whatever I want these days. People just adjust to me rather than me feeling I need to adjust to them.

Of course, that was my specific circumstances so not sure if it applies to you but I would just say make sure you are being authentic or true to you. I found most of my issues were the result of me trying to be who people wanted me to be. Even in dating now, I pretty much tell women upfront that I am not some uber romantic or passionate dude and that I am indifferent about most things so that there are no illusions or preconceptions. There are always the ones that think I am fucking around or get pissed off when they realize that I really don't get worked up about shit but oh well.
 
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BNB said:
I feel like I've told you this before, but I never would have thought you were 60. Some people, by the way they type/speak, they sound old. But with your outlook on a lot of things and the way you type, I pictured you to be much younger. And I'm not saying that as a bad thing btw hahaha.
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Thanks man, not infantile, just young at heart. I've found that most grumpy old men were grumpy young men, maybe a little more messed up with age, but they were probably always unpleasant.

I used to hit the CBMB from the time it existed for Bears info, then came here for the same. At some point that changed and coming here became much more about the LOL's. Like I said before, this place seems less entertaining than is was 2 or 3 years ago, still great Bears info, just less interesting. Or maybe I'm just fucked in the head.
 

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BNB said:
Not at all. I was diagnosed with Lupus and Sjogren's Syndrome. I think it became official at 22, but I felt shitty since around 19. From a mental standpoint, I was a wreck back then. Probably depressed. I stepped out of that, but then I just became pretty pessimistic.

Your advice is good, I just need to find a way to get there.
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You'll get there. It takes some time, but perspective comes when you least expect it. All the best to you man.
 
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Nah man, I don't care enough to take someone's life. Too much effort.

I am more of the middleman. Picture me as Winston from John Wick. Just younger and darker skinned.

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BNB said:
That's weird, because I feel like the start of my.... lack of excitement kind of started when I was diagnosed with some autoimmune issues a few years ago. After that, most things just didn't seem to matter much to me. The way I thought of things was like, "Yeah, this vacation is coming up, but I still have this disease which can make me feel shitty, so who cares?" It's almost like I can't enjoy the little things, because what really matters is all fucked up. Probably not the healthiest way to think, I know that.... but it's hard for me to think otherwise.

Is it kind of the same for you?
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Exactly the same here. Especially knowing it can never be cured and 13 doctors can't even figure out what's causing it.
 
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I bought a new dryer last month and it just broke. I was pretty depressed and then I read this thread. I definitely have some winter blues going, but that doesn't really seem to be what you're experiencing BNB. We're the same age and my only advice is whenever I'm bored or bummed out, I find that it is stemming from my career. When it comes down to it, we spend a lot of time working and when I've been in a position that I liked, I tend to feel happier in my personal life as well because you don't dread getting out of bed and your days aren't full of shit. Maybe look into a career change/lateral move/promotion?
 
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BNB said:
My gf and I went to San Diego recently for a week and have another trip planned in about 2-3 months. But yeah, nothing that gets me going haha.

Thanks for the suggestions though.
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I'm sure this has occurred to you previously, but have you considered the fact you may have a mild form of depression, perhaps clinical?

Maybe some pharma-meds are the solution for you.
 

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I'm sure this has occurred to you previously, but have you considered the fact you may have a mild form of depression, perhaps clinical?

Maybe some pharma-meds are the solution for you.
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yes medicate.. thats the issue.. id be mo better if i were high.. be high everyone
 

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number51 said:
Thanks man, not infantile, just young at heart. I've found that most grumpy old men were grumpy young men, maybe a little more messed up with age, but they were probably always unpleasant.

I used to hit the CBMB from the time it existed for Bears info, then came here for the same. At some point that changed and coming here became much more about the LOL's. Like I said before, this place seems less entertaining than is was 2 or 3 years ago, still great Bears info, just less interesting. Or maybe I'm just fucked in the head.
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how many fart jokes can one laugh at?
 
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Life is boring if you think about it. You travel, wow, different buildings and culture. Big deal. You go to a concert. Yeah, nice but that’s it. Just a singer. My wife like history shit. I’m like cool, but that’s all it is. Same shit as today just in a different way. Weird for me too. I get excited but then I realize, it’s just this or that. But sports, I dig it.


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mane.. im so bored.. im actually gonna go mow the law and weed eat..

the d's to life

destruction
denial
distraction
dreams
death
 
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This thread is spiraling into a fucking suicide thread....
 

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This thread is spiraling into a fucking suicide thread....
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zombies have feelings too?

i got it..

[video=youtube;iOvnzXEgJV8]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iOvnzXEgJV8[/video]
 

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AussieBear said:
mane.. im so bored.. im actually gonna go mow the law and weed eat..

the d's to life

destruction
denial
distraction
dreams
death
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Or, the caged life

creation
acceptance
goals
engagement
death
 
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