OT: My wife and I lost our son on Wednesday; prayers needed

[Geno]

Stay strong and trust in God. He WILL reunite you with your son someday. My prayers are with you.

1 Thessalonians 4:13-17

But we do not want you to be uninformed, brothers, about those who are asleep, that you may not grieve as others do who have no hope. For since we believe that Jesus died and rose again, even so, through Jesus, God will bring with him those who have fallen asleep. For this we declare to you by a word from the Lord, that we who are alive, who are left until the coming of the Lord, will not precede those who have fallen asleep. For the Lord himself will descend from heaven with a cry of command, with the voice of an archangel, and with the sound of the trumpet of God. And the dead in Christ will rise first. Then we who are alive, who are left, will be caught up together with them in the clouds to meet the Lord in the air, and so we will always be with the Lord.

 

[Shepard]

Thank you for sharing and we are here in the future should you need to post again during this impossible time.

You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.

Bear down.

 

[BearsG35]

I"m so Sorry bro when i read that post it hit me in the chest hard. Hate to see someone lose their child. Condolences and keep your head up the board is here for you my man.

 

[hckypro19ja]

Sorry to hear this. My love and condolences go out to you. My son died 4 months ago and you are right it its gut wrenching. He was my first. May our sons and Bearly all be together at this moment including my unborn twin that were miscarriage early last year. Find comfort that we know the pain together and for that I can never measure a pain of mine against anyone else's ever. Peace to you heart and soul for you and your family. I say in allot ways that my son was saved from this crazy and sometimes hard and hateful world. As humans though especially as parents we want to live life in the order of things such as us first but unfortunately it is always so.


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My condolences brother, and to everyone else here that has experienced loss. There never are words that can be said to anyone to make the pain go away, but showing and providing support like everyone has done here goes a lot farther than people realize. Trying to find the reasons for stuff like this is close to impossible but just know there are reasons for everything and everyones loved ones are looking down on them and watching over you. Again thank you everyone for supporting the OP and all the other people here.

 

[Mikeropod]

I'm really sorry about what happened to your family. That's awful beyond belief. Thinking rationally after something like this is going to be quite tough, especially as you were probably already prepared for a big change in your lives.

I would strongly encourage you to seek out some professional counseling, as I know it is very valuable (my wife and I needed it for infertility issues) and was of great help to a cousin who suffered multiple much-earlier-in-the-pregnancy miscarriages. A good friend from HS lost one of his twins just mere hours after birth, which was crushing, but logistically frustrating too as they had bought two of everything; one for each gender.

Let yourself grieve and take the time you *both* need before making big decisions going forward. It might be harder for you to want to "try again" than it is for your wife or vice versa, who knows - grief is a strange beast.

I hope your son rests in peace and that your family surrounds you all with love, understanding and patience.

I don't know you either, but I'll be thinking about you guys.

 

[Mongo_76]

My condolences to you and your wife. It sucks to lose a little Bears fan but know he's wearing that Baby Bears onezy in the sky.

 

[xer0h0ur]

This is entirely off topic, but I really don't give a ****.

I haven't even been on these boards that long and don't really "know" any of you, but I just needed to get away from family for a minute and vent this into the ether.

Wednesday afternoon, my wife and I went into her 39-week exam, thinking that in the next day or so we'd be going through labor.

Shockingly, our doctors could not find a heartbeat, and it was discovered that our son passed away sometime within the day or two previously.

Needless to say, our world was obliterated in an instant.

Later that night, we delivered our son via cesarean and were able to spend some time with him - easily the most gut-wrenching thing I've ever experienced.

I took my wife home from the hospital this morning, and I just wanted to take a quick minute to please ask for your prayers and to keep my family in your thoughts.

Also, if you have children, please hug them extra tighter tonight.

You're lucky to have them.

Man I can't even begin to imagine the pain. My thoughts and prayers go out to you, your wife, your lost child and family. I hope you're able to overcome the depression and have another child in the future.

 

[Novak]

Just thought I'd offer my condolences even though everyone else always has. The pain you're feeling is temporary, you and your family will get through this. Best of luck bearlythere!

 

[Staleydabear1938]

I'm very sorry for your loss.


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[TexasBearfan]

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[SERE Bear]

So sorry for you and your wife.

 

[LuvMyBears]

I'm thinking of you and your wife. Be there for her and know you can come on here and message me if you need some support. Take care and be strong.

 

[KingDarude7]

My thoughts are with your family. A patent should never have to bury a child

 

[wklink]

Terrible, you have our family condolences and our prayers.

 

[bearlythere]

Thank you, everyone, for the prayers and support. It truly means a lot to me.

Yesterday was probably the hardest day, having to bring her home and walk her past what would have been his room on the way to our own (I'd put all of his things in there and closed the door so that she wasn't smacked in the face with reminders as soon as she walked in).

We've been inundated with visitors and, while their intentions are nothing but good, it's becoming a little much.

I feel like we haven't had time to reconcile everything or even grieve with one another alone.

Today I'm just feeling angry.

 

[ZAN]

I'm only here because my older sister gave her life for me to be here today. My mother had the exact same thing happen. Without Molly (my sister), my parents wouldn't have tried again so soon, and I wouldn't be here today.

My thoughts are with you. No one should have to go through that.

-Zac

 

[dRwOOD]

My wife and I experienced a loss over 7 years ago - it's something that really stays with you... I wish you the best and prayers to you & your family - try to stay strong for your wife, she needs you now more than ever before.

 

[DJMoore_is_fat]

My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family during this time. There is no explaining some of the unimaginably painful things that occur to human beings. I hope, in the Fall, Chicago Bears football can be a reprieve from the heart ache you are experiencing.

Stay strong. One day you will walk outside and the sun will be shinning again -- and it will be a beautiful thing.

 

[Ares]

Thank you, everyone, for the prayers and support. It truly means a lot to me.

Yesterday was probably the hardest day, having to bring her home and walk her past what would have been his room on the way to our own (I'd put all of his things in there and closed the door so that she wasn't smacked in the face with reminders as soon as she walked in).

We've been inundated with visitors and, while their intentions are nothing but good, it's becoming a little much.

I feel like we haven't had time to reconcile everything or even grieve with one another alone.

Today I'm just feeling angry.

I cannot offer you much.... but if any Pigeons try to **** with you..... I got your back, no questions asked.

(but srs condolences my fellow Bears fan)

 

[clonetrooper264]

My condolences to you and anyone else who has had the misfortune of losing a child. Stay strong.