OT: My wife and I lost our son on Wednesday; prayers needed

[Jack Lame]

Incredibly sorry about your loss. There is nothing we can do to make us forget about horrible events like this, only over time we gain perspective and wisdom when reflecting on it. Hope you and your wife find peace

 

[emaugust]

my thoughts are with you brother. I will light a candle at the home altar.

 

[SugabearMVP]

You're gonna have mixed feelings as the days go by. Sadness, anger, confusion, you name it. Just ride the wave and don't let those feelings take from you what you really are. I know it's easier said than done, but believe that IT IS POSSIBLE! Prayers go out to you and your wife. God Bless

 

[Applefan]

My condolences to you and your family.

 

[Chinese]

Thank you, everyone, for the prayers and support. It truly means a lot to me.

Yesterday was probably the hardest day, having to bring her home and walk her past what would have been his room on the way to our own (I'd put all of his things in there and closed the door so that she wasn't smacked in the face with reminders as soon as she walked in).

We've been inundated with visitors and, while their intentions are nothing but good, it's becoming a little much.

I feel like we haven't had time to reconcile everything or even grieve with one another alone.

Today I'm just feeling angry.

Anger is one of the biggest obstacles I am dealing with my friend. Although I consumed myself with work (over 130 hrs of overtime) in a few weeks. I find that now that I stop doing that I also you. I took the day off just like that. It's the least I can do for myself. My wife although she was not the mother of my first son as well as my second prays daily for those souls. Especially we have prayed for you and our twins we lost last year. Just a few minutes ago we lit a candle and prayed for your family. Let yourself feel and deal with it how you seem fit. I just want to say that with all the support you have and I have had is that we may comfort in love. The most important thing in life is simply that LOVE and compassion for your neighbor.ay eternal peace rest with yours and mines and everyone else who is going thru the same thing.

Good nite. May peace in time rest upon you. I'm here cause I need the same support but this is your moment and may God Heal you and bless you enormously.
I wish I can console you but sometimes we have muster some of that through our own but for sure do not push a friend or family away those are the ones that are sent to bring us out of those sad moments. Even if they last just for a few it does feel good.


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[MEGATRON]

My wife and I lost a child 14 years ago due to a tubal pregnancy. My wife almost died when her tube ruptured and she started to bleed internally. She was rushed into emergency surgery to remove our baby and her tube. Her doctor told us that her chances of getting pregnant after the procedure was drastically cut down because of only having one ovary delivering eggs. Two months later she was pregnant again and then nine months later we had our second son who is now 13.

When my son was five, I was reading his children's bible to him when he stopped me and said "I know him" pointing at a picture of Jesus. I asked him where does he know him from? He told me in a dream, the man (Jesus) told him that he was supposed to be with his mommy and dad not there with him (in heaven). So the man brought him to us.

I have always been a believer in God but, that for me was confirmation. Weather you believe in God or not, I will pray for you and your wife. I will pray that you find strength in each other and that God deliver your son back to you as he did for my wife and I. May God bless you and keep you my friend.

Isaiah 41:10, 13 fear not, for I am with you; be not dismayed, for I am your God; I will strengthen you, I will help you, I will uphold you with my righteous right hand … For I, the LORD your God, hold your right hand; it is I who say to you, “Fear not, I am the one who helps you.”

 

[tricky5544]

This is entirely off topic, but I really don't give a ****.

I haven't even been on these boards that long and don't really "know" any of you, but I just needed to get away from family for a minute and vent this into the ether.

Wednesday afternoon, my wife and I went into her 39-week exam, thinking that in the next day or so we'd be going through labor.

Shockingly, our doctors could not find a heartbeat, and it was discovered that our son passed away sometime within the day or two previously.

Needless to say, our world was obliterated in an instant.

Later that night, we delivered our son via cesarean and were able to spend some time with him - easily the most gut-wrenching thing I've ever experienced.

I took my wife home from the hospital this morning, and I just wanted to take a quick minute to please ask for your prayers and to keep my family in your thoughts.

Also, if you have children, please hug them extra tighter tonight.

You're lucky to have them.

May God bless you and your wife in these times. When you feel up to it, you should read or watch "Heaven is for Real"
God Bless

 

[onebud34]

Sorry to hear that bearly...my thoughts are with you.

 

[freddylamar]

My wife and I lost a child 14 years ago due to a tubal pregnancy. My wife almost died when her tube ruptured and she started to bleed internally. She was rushed into emergency surgery to remove our baby and her tube. Her doctor told us that her chances of getting pregnant after the procedure was drastically cut down because of only having one ovary delivering eggs. Two months later she was pregnant again and then nine months later we had our second son who is now 13.

When my son was five, I was reading his children's bible to him when he stopped me and said "I know him" pointing at a picture of Jesus. I asked him where does he know him from? He told me in a dream, the man (Jesus) told him that he was supposed to be with his mommy and dad not there with him (in heaven). So the man brought him to us.

I have always been a believer in God but, that for me was confirmation. Weather you believe in God or not, I will pray for you and your wife. I will pray that you find strength in each other and that God deliver your son back to you as he did for my wife and I. May God bless you and keep you my friend.

Isaiah 41:10, 13 fear not, for I am with you; be not dismayed, for I am your God; I will strengthen you, I will help you, I will uphold you with my righteous right hand … For I, the LORD your God, hold your right hand; it is I who say to you, “Fear not, I am the one who helps you.”

Beautiful story, god bless. Thank you for sharing.

 

[BearFanJohn]

Just saw this. My condolences.

 

[Evobear]

Condolences

 

[TheDane]

That's unbelievably sad. Hope you guys are doing okay, considering the circumstances.

 

[Matt Suhey]

My sincere condolences for your great loss. I will pray for you and your family. You might want to study Kubla Ross's five stages of grief. Self awareness and self understanding can help along the difficult grieving process. My experience is that when someone leaves you suddenly it takes a good six months for the raw edge of the hurt to heal like a scab over a wound. However it can take a good year to heal the heart so it feels normal again.

 

[cozzy1]

I can't even imagine what you are going through at the moment.

My deepest and sincerest condolences to you and your partner

 

[Monster]

This is entirely off topic, but I really don't give a ****.

I haven't even been on these boards that long and don't really "know" any of you, but I just needed to get away from family for a minute and vent this into the ether.

Wednesday afternoon, my wife and I went into her 39-week exam, thinking that in the next day or so we'd be going through labor.

Shockingly, our doctors could not find a heartbeat, and it was discovered that our son passed away sometime within the day or two previously.

Needless to say, our world was obliterated in an instant.

Later that night, we delivered our son via cesarean and were able to spend some time with him - easily the most gut-wrenching thing I've ever experienced.

I took my wife home from the hospital this morning, and I just wanted to take a quick minute to please ask for your prayers and to keep my family in your thoughts.

Also, if you have children, please hug them extra tighter tonight.

You're lucky to have them.

My most sincere condolences to you and your family...

 

[Mr. Jones]

Terribly sorry for your loss brother..Stay strong with, and for your wife..

 

[brett05]

Praying for your family at this time.