TSD is girlfriendless

[mikita's helmet]

[quote name="winos5"]Some of the worst decisions I've ever made in my life occured during periods of emotional chaos like this, and alcohol was never helpful in that regard.[/quote]



I've actually got 25 years of sobriety after being on a 10 year binge prior to that. Drinking just never worked for me.

 

[bri]

[quote name="Mikita's Helmet"]



I've actually got 25 years of sobriety after being on a 10 year binge prior to that. Drinking just never worked for me.[/quote]



So that's why you waited till your golden years to become a lawyer.

 

[mikita's helmet]

[quote name="bri"]



So that's why you waited till your golden years to become a lawyer.[/quote]



I consider them my platinum years, Bri.

 

[bri]

TSD



Hun, I was thinking, maybe you should call yourself an Unrestricted Free Agent instead of girlfriendless. It makes you sound less pathetic. And UFAs are always highly desired. You'll be beating them off with a stick.

 

[mikita's helmet]

[quote name="bri"]TSD



Hun, I was thinking, maybe you should call yourself an Unrestricted Free Agent instead of girlfriendless. It makes you sound less pathetic. And UFAs are always highly desired. You'll be beating them off with a stick.[/quote]



Or they'll be beating him off. Sorry, couldn't resist. :lol:

 

[bubbleheadchief]

[quote name="bri"]You guys are awful encouraging him to have sex with some random skank. That nor drinking himself into a stupor will help. He just needs his family and friends to be supportive of him right now. He doesn't want to turn into his brother.



Hun, that alone should be enough reason to exercise common sense.[/quote]

HUn, everyne deals with pain differently....most women's reaction to it is "Oh, my poor baby" not all guys want to hear that. Most of what I have said obviously was tryign to lighten the mood a bit.



When i split from my first wife, I spent that weekend in a bottle, picked myself up and moved on. To each person it's different.

 

[TSD]

[quote name="Kerfuffle"]I'll put a little different spin on this. TSD - do you love this girl? I mean really love her? If the answer to that is yes don't let her go. It's not too late. After 7 years she's feeling it hard too. Tell her how you feel. I almost let my wife go due to similar circumstances and I'm glad I went back to her - she is my soulmate and we have 2 beautiful kids together. So if you truly love this girl as I said, don't let her go. I mean it.[/quote]





Its because I wont marry her, is the reason we split up. I figure if I was ready to do it I would, but im not, and if she wants to break it off because that so be it.





And I am being extreme, I hate hangovers too much to seriously get blitzed daily for a week and drinking doesn't really help, I find it makes you reflect on the situation even more, but getting any of her shit out of my place post haste is key. I don't want to be reminded of her every 3 feet I walk. Oh she gave me that, oh thats hers. Although its kind of hard not to have anything like that, after spending 7 years with someone and living with them for pretty much 5 of those years its difficult. The worst thing when I was going through my stuff today, was finding the mountain of letters from her when I was away in the army that I saved, thats going to have to go in the garbage any future girlfriend would find it odd that I hung onto those.

 

[sth]

In Ancient Rome if you got married you could keep a couple of mistresses as the male head of the house hold. Maybe you should build a time machine and go back there and get hitched.

 

[bri]

[quote name="TSD"]





Its because I wont marry her, is the reason we split up. I figure if I was ready to do it I would, but im not, and if she wants to break it off because that so be it.





And I am being extreme, I hate hangovers too much to seriously get blitzed daily for a week and drinking doesn't really help, I find it makes you reflect on the situation even more, but getting any of her shit out of my place post haste is key. I don't want to be reminded of her every 3 feet I walk. Oh she gave me that, oh thats hers. Although its kind of hard not to have anything like that, after spending 7 years with someone and living with them for pretty much 5 of those years its difficult. The worst thing when I was going through my stuff today, was finding the mountain of letters from her when I was away in the army that I saved, thats going to have to go in the garbage any future girlfriend would find it odd that I hung onto those.[/quote]



Don't do it right away. You could regret throwing them out and wish you had them back. Just because you aren't together doesn't mean she doesn't still have a place in your heart. Besides your future gf doesn't have any business going through your personal things. Take your time. Don't go jumping into anything.

 

[whiteevo]

false.



go to the nearest college campus this weekend. find an impressionable 20 year old. bang.

















or sit around and cry, either way have fun.

 

[bubbleheadchief]

[quote name="bri"]



Don't do it right away. You could regret throwing them out and wish you had them back. Just because you aren't together doesn't mean she doesn't still have a place in your heart. Besides your future gf doesn't have any business going through your personal things. Take your time. Don't go jumping into anything.[/quote]

Real easy to say, I have yet to meet a girl....granted I have been off the market for years, but I have yet to meet a girl that ever lived up to that one "What is past is past, and you're with me know" till she meets your parents and sees the pics with you and the ex on their walls.....WWIII follows post haste.



TSD: we can sit here and give you all the advise in the world, and you can take it or leave it. Simply put my brother, you hae to do what is going to help you keep your sanity, if that means a bonfire of the ex's stuff, then by all means get the lighter and out.

 

[Tater]

[quote name="TSD"]



Its because I wont marry her, is the reason we split up. I figure if I was ready to do it I would, but im not, and if she wants to break it off because that so be it.

[/quote]



Man, you made the right choice. I turned down a proposal when I was around your age (beautiful girl too) and it's the best thing I did.

I'm not saying everyone should wait but if your not ready you would be starting behind the 8-ball if you went ahead and got married due to pressure.



You were together through many of your prime bar hopping years. Maybe just going at to bars with friends (when you ready) would help. I think everyone needs to see "what else is out there" before finding the right one.

If it was meant to be maybe you two will get back together in a few years.I would have never met my wife if I jumped into something in my late 20's. She's the best thing that ever happened to me. (she's right behind me now right?)

 

[Ymono37]

[quote name="bubbleheadchief"]TSD: we can sit here and give you all the advise in the world, and you can take it or leave it. Simply put my brother, you hae to do what is going to help you keep your sanity, if that means a bonfire of the ex's stuff, then by all means get the lighter and out.[/quote]



QFT, Brother..



Getting rid of all her shit was one of the best things I ever did to move on.

 

[TSD]

[quote name="Tater"]



Man, you made the right choice. I turned down a proposal when I was around your age (beautiful girl too) and it's the best thing I did.

I'm not saying everyone should wait but if your not ready you would be starting behind the 8-ball if you went ahead and got married due to pressure.



You were together through many of your prime bar hopping years. Maybe just going at to bars with friends (when you ready) would help. I think everyone needs to see "what else is out there" before finding the right one.

If it was meant to be maybe you two will get back together in a few years.I would have never met my wife if I jumped into something in my late 20's. She's the best thing that ever happened to me. (she's right behind me now right?) [/quote]





Thats the thing, other than her, I havent had any other long term relationships, hell any relationship that goes beyond the realm of "**** buddy" other than her, the same applies to her too, we were essentially both in our first long term relationship. I just figure eventually one or both of us would decide they wished they had tried somebody else out for awhile, after were already married.

 

[Guest]

TSD, this song has helped me through some tough girl situations... okay, just one but here it is:



[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9V0l_PLQ448[/youtube]

 

[LaurenNMU]

[quote name="TJD"]TSD, this song has helped me through some tough girl situations... okay, just one but here it is:



[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9V0l_PLQ448[/youtube][/quote]





Great song



and i don't really have any helpful advice so i'm just gonna say i hope you start feeling better soon!

 

[bri]

[quote name="bubbleheadchief"]

Real easy to say, I have yet to meet a girl....granted I have been off the market for years, but I have yet to meet a girl that ever lived up to that one "What is past is past, and you're with me know" till she meets your parents and sees the pics with you and the ex on their walls.....WWIII follows post haste.



TSD: we can sit here and give you all the advise in the world, and you can take it or leave it. Simply put my brother, you hae to do what is going to help you keep your sanity, if that means a bonfire of the ex's stuff, then by all means get the lighter and out.[/quote]



Do you think women don't keep things? And I didn't say he had to keep them forever. I just told him he should give it some time and make sure that's what he really wants to do. Cause when they're gone, they're gone and you can't get them back.

 

[sth]

[quote name="bubbleheadchief"]

Real easy to say, I have yet to meet a girl....granted I have been off the market for years, but I have yet to meet a girl that ever lived up to that one "What is past is past, and you're with me know" till she meets your parents and sees the pics with you and the ex on their walls.....WWIII follows post haste.



TSD: we can sit here and give you all the advise in the world, and you can take it or leave it. Simply put my brother, you hae to do what is going to help you keep your sanity, if that means a bonfire of the ex's stuff, then by all means get the lighter and out.[/quote]

I know in my relationships I'm always the one more interested in the past then the girl. Maybe I'm kind of girly. It's your choice TSD if you feel better getting rid of her things do it. But if you think that you want keep a few things that remind you of a happier time do that too. Maybe hide some of her things in a closet so you won't see them now but will have them later.

 

[TSD]

On top of it, the fucking dogs we had are technically "hers"(she wanted a dog so I bought one, she wanted anotherone so I bought another one) Though they were both of ours, technically hers so she has them. So its not just her thats out of the picture, and I loved the little bastards.

I should probably purge my photobucket.

 

[mikita's helmet]

[quote name="TSD"]

I should probably purge my photobucket.[/quote]



That's close to verging on one of those shittiest forms of porno. Purge it, dude.