Youth Sports Coaching

[Bigfoot]

I recently just finished up my oldest son basketball season. I had a parent call me during practice to complain about drills that I was running during a practice. What was funny is the parent was sitting their the whole time, but felt the need to call while I was running a practice vs just asking me. The drill was a defensive drill, and the parent could not understand why I would not let her child shoot the ball. Told them you cannot shoot when your on defense you shoot on offense. Then during a game she legit walked up to my wife, and asked why the other team tries to steal the ball from us when we have it, and she felt it was rude and mean. She asked who she could contact to have it changed. My wife told her its called playing defense, and maybe you should watch a college or pro game. Anyone else run into brain dead parents when coaching?

 

[Gustavus Adolphus]

I referee. So, yes. I do.

 

[Bigfoot]

I referee. So, yes. I do.

Isnt it amazing Gus. I coach soccer, girls basketball and boys basketball ,and I will say have had more clueless parents in basketball than soccer. Although my favorite ones are the parents that think their kid is awesome, but in reality they are not good at all.

 

[Gustavus Adolphus]

Sports are pretty simple to understand, at least the basics. I don't expect people to really understand the nuances of the rules, but I'd think at least the understanding of defense would make sense.

 

[Bigfoot]

Sports are pretty simple to understand, at least the basics. I don't expect people to really understand the nuances of the rules, but I'd think at least the understanding of defense would make sense.

You would think, it literally took the parent the whole season to figure basic rules out. As for the kid he still didnt understand anything. It was more the parent signed the kid up to play, and the kid didnt care to be there.

 

[dweebs19]

I coached youth soccer. ages 7 to 12, and I have to say, most of the issues I've had are about parents thinking their son is the next Messi and that I should run the offense through their kid. For the most part, most of the parents didn't interfere with my coaching tactics. There was always just that one dad who thought I didn't play "Billy" enough even though "Billy" is the least talented on the team. However, if I had a team who gave effort like "Billy", I'd win the league every year.

 

[Hawkeye OG]

Then during a game she legit walked up to my wife, and asked why the other team tries to steal the ball from us when we have it, and she felt it was rude and mean. She asked who she could contact to have it changed.

I'm honestly speechless. That is beyond ridiculous.

 

[Bigfoot]

I coached youth soccer. ages 7 to 12, and I have to say, most of the issues I've had are about parents thinking their son is the next Messi and that I should run the offense through their kid. For the most part, most of the parents didn't interfere with my coaching tactics. There was always just that one dad who thought I didn't play "Billy" enough even though "Billy" is the least talented on the team. However, if I had a team who gave effort like "Billy", I'd win the league every year.

I've ran into this my 1st time coaching, now I go in with a strategy on which kids to draft. What I do now is have my wife watch how the parents interact with the kids during tryouts. The parents like the one above, I just cross that kid off the list no matter how good they are.

 

[Bigfoot]

I'm honestly speechless. That is beyond ridiculous.

it really was. I had issues with her kid all year. I would explain something to him, or make it simple Hey you are guarding this kid. I would ask who are you guarding he would go I don't know, literally would just shake my head. I will say worst parent I have had coaching so far. I had another parent on the same team whose boys i coached in soccer, this mom flat out told this parent. Your kid is not good, and maybe you should learn the rules of the game before complaining.

 

[The Hawk]

I recently just finished up my oldest son basketball season. I had a parent call me during practice to complain about drills that I was running during a practice. What was funny is the parent was sitting their the whole time, but felt the need to call while I was running a practice vs just asking me. The drill was a defensive drill, and the parent could not understand why I would not let her child shoot the ball. Told them you cannot shoot when your on defense you shoot on offense. Then during a game she legit walked up to my wife, and asked why the other team tries to steal the ball from us when we have it, and she felt it was rude and mean. She asked who she could contact to have it changed. My wife told her its called playing defense, and maybe you should watch a college or pro game. Anyone else run into brain dead parents when coaching?

Of course you run into idiot parents. That was really a great story, though. The worst "coaching" is with elementary aged kids where everyone must play and winning is looked upon with askance and participation is more important. I hated coaching little league because of the parents while the most fun that I had was coaching high school and travel ball.

 

[Bigfoot]

Of course you run into idiot parents. That was really a great story, though. The worst "coaching" is with elementary aged kids where everyone must play and winning is looked upon with askance and participation is more important. I hated coaching little league because of the parents while the most fun that I had was coaching high school and travel ball.

The soccer club I coach with in is trying to get me to get myself and my older son over to the Academy Program, where I would become the director, and coach as well. I would like to but it would interfere with my other leagues I coach in. Although probably once my sons hit 12 they will move on to the travel ball

 

[Ares]

I recently just finished up my oldest son basketball season. I had a parent call me during practice to complain about drills that I was running during a practice. What was funny is the parent was sitting their the whole time, but felt the need to call while I was running a practice vs just asking me. The drill was a defensive drill, and the parent could not understand why I would not let her child shoot the ball. Told them you cannot shoot when your on defense you shoot on offense. Then during a game she legit walked up to my wife, and asked why the other team tries to steal the ball from us when we have it, and she felt it was rude and mean. She asked who she could contact to have it changed. My wife told her its called playing defense, and maybe you should watch a college or pro game. Anyone else run into brain dead parents when coaching?

You need to keep this gif handy:

:hawked:

And then show it to them

 

[dweebs19]

I've ran into this my 1st time coaching, now I go in with a strategy on which kids to draft. What I do now is have my wife watch how the parents interact with the kids during tryouts. The parents like the one above, I just cross that kid off the list no matter how good they are.

well, I really didn't have a choice. I coached for one of the public city league teams. So anyone who signed up and paid could be on the team. I couldn't really cut anyone or have tryouts. And of course, I also had to have all the kids get some playtime. I had some really good kids on the team who went on to play for travelling teams when they turned 12 and had tryouts for some USA soccer thing.

 

[LordKOTL]

You would think, it literally took the parent the whole season to figure basic rules out. As for the kid he still didnt understand anything. It was more the parent signed the kid up to play, and the kid didnt care to be there.

You're basically a glorified babysitter in that position--which completely sucks.

I honestly think they need a coach for parents for youth sports more than a coach for kids...although it would suck to draw that lot since it would be like coaching a team of Sean Averys or Raffi Torres' with the skill of someone who can't even make a beer-league C-level team.

 

[FirstTimer]

I've been coaching and officiating for nearly 10 years now. The amount of brain dead parent/fan stories I have is unbelievable.

I'm sure Gus feels the same way but the next time I hear someone yell for an "OVER THE BACK" foul....I'm throat punching them.

 

[Ares]

You're basically a glorified babysitter in that position--which completely sucks.

I honestly think they need a coach for parents for youth sports more than a coach for kids...although it would suck to draw that lot since it would be like coaching a team of Sean Averys or Raffi Torres' with the skill of someone who can't even make a beer-league C-level team.

I played on a Little League team that was like the youngest where you did not use a pitching machine.

My Dad coached that team because he cut grass for the Park District and they needed him to coach cause someone dropped out.

He picked an entire team of untalented kids.... and I include myself in that lol.... I was not very good at baseball, not the worst kid on that team, but not very good.

Of the 3 other teams, 2 of them had like 50/50 good/bad and 1 team had all the best players, including some kid who would crank homeruns over the fence as long as the pitcher threw it over the plate where he could hit it.

Looking back on that.... I think it is unfair to do that to the kids.... have a coach who don't know how to coach and has no idea who to pick while other parents know all the kids and load teams up with the best players. We would lose games like 25 to nothing.... after 2 innings no one wanted to play anymore. And that all-star team was filled with assholes... we did a hand shake line with them after they killed us and one of them sucker punched me in the ribs.

Little League.... teaching some kids how to be beaten and stomped on, and others how to show no class and become assholes.

I am still salty about that sucker punch in the handshake line cause idk who did it... kid shoulda owned up so I coulda swung on him.

 

[Bigfoot]

I would hope participation is more important. What the heck do you think you are 'winning' with elementary aged kids? Thats completely deranged.

If I put my 2nd grader on a sports team, my expectation is that they at least 'participate', no matter how terrible my kid is. Thats kind of the whole point...get them into sports early so that they have the opportunity to try something new and improve themselves. I couldn't care less if "The Hawk" is polishing another "Youth Sports Championship" trophy in his living room. Thats just pathetic on your part.

I go into every season with 2 goals for the kids.

1st is for each kid to better than they were when they started the season.
2nd is to try to win as many as possible. Ive coached teams were we only won 1 game, and the kids legit stop playing or trying, but if they are winning they keep playing hard and trying. Now you do have those kids that play hard no matter if they win or lose

 

[LordKOTL]

I played on a Little League team that was like the youngest where you did not use a pitching machine.

My Dad coached that team because he cut grass for the Park District and they needed him to coach cause someone dropped out.

He picked an entire team of untalented kids.... and I include myself in that lol.... I was not very good at baseball, not the worst kid on that team, but not very good.

Of the 3 other teams, 2 of them had like 50/50 good/bad and 1 team had all the best players, including some kid who would crank homeruns over the fence as long as the pitcher threw it over the plate where he could hit it.

Looking back on that.... I think it is unfair to do that to the kids.... have a coach who don't know how to coach and has no idea who to pick while other parents know all the kids and load teams up with the best players. We would lose games like 25 to nothing.... after 2 innings no one wanted to play anymore. And that all-star team was filled with assholes... we did a hand shake line with them after they killed us and one of them sucker punched me in the ribs.

Little League.... teaching some kids how to be beaten and stomped on, and others how to show no class and become assholes.

I am still salty about that sucker punch in the handshake line cause idk who did it... kid shoulda owned up so I coulda swung on him.

That sucks.

What I meant though was that there should be a coach for the parents who sign their kids up for youth sports that trains then to be good parents (learning the rules, etc.) and if the patents don't perform, they are not allowed in the stands.

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[Bigfoot]

You're basically a glorified babysitter in that position--which completely sucks.

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I have had it both ways honestly. I have kids were Im constantley telling them to pay attention, and saying their name over and over. I look over at the parent like uh you want to jump in. They laugh, and Im thinking so your kid is not listening being disruptive and you think its funny. Ok

I have had other parents same situation yank their kid off the field, and lecture them.

I have noticed the kids that pay attention and listen are extremely respectful and the parents are involved. Were as the kids that dont want to listen and follow rules, parents are usually on their phone and so disconnected from their own kids.

 

[Bigfoot]

I played on a Little League team that was like the youngest where you did not use a pitching machine.

My Dad coached that team because he cut grass for the Park District and they needed him to coach cause someone dropped out.

He picked an entire team of untalented kids.... and I include myself in that lol.... I was not very good at baseball, not the worst kid on that team, but not very good.

Of the 3 other teams, 2 of them had like 50/50 good/bad and 1 team had all the best players, including some kid who would crank homeruns over the fence as long as the pitcher threw it over the plate where he could hit it.

Looking back on that.... I think it is unfair to do that to the kids.... have a coach who don't know how to coach and has no idea who to pick while other parents know all the kids and load teams up with the best players. We would lose games like 25 to nothing.... after 2 innings no one wanted to play anymore. And that all-star team was filled with assholes... we did a hand shake line with them after they killed us and one of them sucker punched me in the ribs.

Little League.... teaching some kids how to be beaten and stomped on, and others how to show no class and become assholes.

I am still salty about that sucker punch in the handshake line cause idk who did it... kid shoulda owned up so I coulda swung on him.

I actually suspended a kid for 1 game for not shaking hands after the game. I let the parents know from the 1st practice if your kid refuses to shake a hands with the other team after the game they will not play in the next game.