Girlfriends birthday this sunday..wants to go to a winery at noon.

[Icculus]

Take her after the game. It's not like a winery closes at 4 PM. I'm lucky, though. My wife's birthday is in April.

 

[DrGonzo]

I don't get all the stuff about how if you miss one football game for her she'll control you for the rest of your life. That's billshit. Most Sundays I watch football. Sometimes I do other things. Sometimes it's stuff I need to do because I had to work Saturday. Sometimes it's stuff I would rather do than watch a bad game during a meaningless season. Sometimes it's something she wants to do. Sometimes it's something we both want to do. Sometimes she watches the game with me. Sometimes we travel during football season. Hey, intelligent adult human beings are capable of flexible decision making without it being an epic power struggle. Do what you want, but really would it kill you to DVR the game and watch it later without commercials? Next time you won't magically have lost the ability to say no.

 

[Bearly]

 

[GoBears]

On the outside "im like sure whatever you want." But inside im like NOOOOOOOO!!!!! Outside of having the nfl sunday package is there a way to watch the game other tha nfl rewind which i believe makes you wait till tuesday to warch the games?

I hope you took her. The person who sucks your dick is FAR more important than any sports team.

 

[Trump32]

If you want some advice, New Jersey has tons of places you could hide a body. Just ask any guy in a wife beater and "fancy" sweats. It's better to get out in front of this one.

 

[BaBaBlacksheep]

I found out who the REAL Bears fans are from this thread.

 

[satchice]

A lot of times you can find the games on torrent sites . Ive seen them uploaded in HD in as little as 4 hours after the game on SPEED.CD which is IMO the best torrent site, very reliable, zero malware, and zero popups.


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[Josh2J]

so whats the verdict? do we have a plan yet? Some on this board may be hanging by a thread to see what direction this one goes.

to me this screams TEST.... she's testing you to see where she stands with you. how important she is to you.... so careful how you tread. Without knowing how long you have been dating and how much you care about her cant really give great advise.

 

[ClydeLee]

winery tastings are awesome, sounds good.

 

[BearsFan51]

She won't be the one you marry. Way too high maintenance.

 

[Ares]

Get some gasoline and burn the winery down.

Dis...

 

[didshereallysaythat]

I don't get all the stuff about how if you miss one football game for her she'll control you for the rest of your life. That's billshit.

It's not just about "this one time". And it's not even about the Bears. It could be anything that is important to you.

If this girl has been with this guy for 4 years and if he is a die hard Bears fan, then she ABSOLUTELY knows that the Bears are going to play at the EXACT time she says she wants to go to the winery. The whole thing is a test to see if he is willing to give into her manipulative behavior. And she knows very well that if she gets away with it, then there are other things she will be getting away with later.

If you are deep into a marriage, then yes you can negotiate these things and do things together that you both agree on. But when you are still dating and you give into doing things because you are "trying to be sweet" when it is obvious that you would rather do something else, women pick up on this shit. She might tell you how sweet you are and how much she appreciates it. But it is all just so you KEEP DOING IT AGAIN AND AGAIN. I have seen this shit over and over again with so many guys. And this is not my opinion. This is fact. Women will appreciate you more and even be more turned on to you if you stand up, be a man, and do what you want to do. If you want to take them out to a movie, buy them flowers... it's because YOU WANT TO. Not because you are trying to impress her and be a soft sweet teddy bear.

 

[WindyCity]

Here is my easy steps to avoid this type of situation.

1. Establish Early that you Love the Bears

Do not blindside her, do not surprise her once she is into it, let her know early on that on Sundays that you watch the Bears and it means a lot to you. That way there is no argument later on that she did not know.

2. Do Extra Things

It is really hard to make demands of someone who does extra things around the house. Especially if she knows it is because you are "out on Sundays". Do the laundry, make dinner, do more cleaning. I do everything, so I do not have to do anything on Sunday.

3. Establish Date Nights and be Proactive

If you are going to write off ever Sunday then you have to have time set aside so that she feels like she is getting her time. More importantly it shows that she is a priority and that you are thinking about you. She doesn't care if you want Sundays, but she does not want you to be selfish about it.

4. Include the Children

If you have kids make sure you include them, it gives the wife/girlfriend a break and it makes Sundays more important to the family. No wife/girlfriend is going to want to interrupt father daughter/son time.

If you do not have kids, talk about how you cannot wait to watch football on Sundays with your kids. 1. All women love when their men are thinking about kids and 2. It adds a layer of importance to Sundays before you actually have the children.

5. Promote Lady Events

My wife thinks of Sundays as "her day" she plans events with friends or with baby group, she runs errands, and watches trashy TV. She loves Sundays and there is never a fight or an issue. If you can get some of your buddies wives interested as well than you have really hit stride.

 

[WindyCity]

Educated
Mature
Adult

And I watch the Bears on Sunday.

 

[ruprecht]

On Saturday smack her around a little and do her in the butt. No way she will want to go wine tasting with you on Sunday.

 

[pseudonym]

I have seen this before with my buddies.

It starts with a birthday
Then it is an aunt from out of town
Then it is a brunch
Then Sunday's don't really matter anymore.

I use to watch football with a big group of buddies and slowly many have been picked off, kind of like the Jurassic Park of brunches.

 

[pseudonym]

Here is my easy steps to avoid this type of situation.

1. Establish Early that you Love the Bears

Do not blindside her, do not surprise her once she is into it, let her know early on that on Sundays that you watch the Bears and it means a lot to you. That way there is no argument later on that she did not know.

2. Do Extra Things

It is really hard to make demands of someone who does extra things around the house. Especially if she knows it is because you are "out on Sundays". Do the laundry, make dinner, do more cleaning. I do everything, so I do not have to do anything on Sunday.

3. Establish Date Nights and be Proactive

If you are going to write off ever Sunday then you have to have time set aside so that she feels like she is getting her time. More importantly it shows that she is a priority and that you are thinking about you. She doesn't care if you want Sundays, but she does not want you to be selfish about it.

4. Include the Children

If you have kids make sure you include them, it gives the wife/girlfriend a break and it makes Sundays more important to the family. No wife/girlfriend is going to want to interrupt father daughter/son time.

If you do not have kids, talk about how you cannot wait to watch football on Sundays with your kids. 1. All women love when their men are thinking about kids and 2. It adds a layer of importance to Sundays before you actually have the children.

5. Promote Lady Events

My wife thinks of Sundays as "her day" she plans events with friends or with baby group, she runs errands, and watches trashy TV. She loves Sundays and there is never a fight or an issue. If you can get some of your buddies wives interested as well than you have really hit stride.

This is all good advice. I've been married 15 years and I do all of these things. Hell, the wife (and kids) are even into the Cubs right now, excited to watch, and sit down to join me now and then for the Bears games.

 

[pseudonym]

I don't get all the stuff about how if you miss one football game for her she'll control you for the rest of your life. That's buillshit. .

It's a slippery slope. You do it one week, then again, then suddenly she SEES that you don't really care about the Bears, you start giving it up for less and less. Windy gave some great advice on how to balance it out. And yes, the DVR also does wonders. I mean, it is her birthday, I wouldn't have a problem missing the game for her on that. I've been going to all of my son's soccer games which are on Sundays at either 12 or 1:30 all year long. As much as I love the Bears, I'm missing those games to see him play. It's more important to me. He just got his first goal last week, so glad I was there. I don't have a DVR, so I catch what I can, when I can. No biggie.

 

[xer0h0ur]

 

[DC]

To the op: break out the EVOO and get to tossin'.