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I don't presently date either. It all started becoming so one sided that I said **** it, I'm done. I may never date again, it's stressful and quite honestly, the sex isn't worth it. I urge many of my friends to take back their manhood.
 

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I don't presently date either. It all started becoming so one sided that I said **** it, I'm done. I may never date again, it's stressful and quite honestly, the sex isn't worth it. I urge many of my friends to take back their manhood.
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Honestly, I'm not going to say she's perfect--no one is, but she's about as close as I could reasonably expect. We both understand that there are ways we just are, and with that we give each other leeway. There's a bit of "crossover" in terms of what we do but each of us have our own things that the other doesn't get too involved with.
 
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A successful relationship has compromise.
 

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A successful relationship has compromise.
Yes. If the woman doesn't like football, she can go to the store and get all the goodies for the man's friends to come over and enjoy a day of football. She can make the snacks and pizzas and keep the fridge stocked with cold beer. If she truly wants to compromise with the man she loves.

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A successful relationship has compromise.

There's compromise and there's "We're going to do what I want come hell or high water."

In BNB's case, it's not compromise, but her trying to control him. If she was after compromise she would try to plan things for Saturdays knowing full well that Football ism important to him, or if whatever had to happen on a Sunday, letting him know full-on in advance. She wouldn't be trying to sabotage his Sundays.
 
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There's compromise and there's "We're going to do what I want come hell or high water."

In BNB's case, it's not compromise, but her trying to control him. If she was after compromise she would try to plan things for Saturdays knowing full well that Football ism important to him, or if whatever had to happen on a Sunday, letting him know full-on in advance. She wouldn't be trying to sabotage his Sundays.

what you described was a one way street.
 

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My bad. I thought were taking the opposite stance.

I've seen people use "compromise" as "Stop doing what you want so we can do what I want" so my bad for jumping to that conclusion.
 

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My bad. I thought were taking the opposite stance.

I've seen people use "compromise" as "Stop doing what you want so we can do what I want" so my bad for jumping to that conclusion.

That's not compromise either.

But taking away every Sunday because of Football is equally wrong.
 

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My wife and I are still best friends 15 years after we first hung out. I'm pretty fortunate that we rarely ever get into it. Maybe once a year we have a "fight," but it's not a "GET YOUR SHIT OUT OF HERE" sort of ordeal. It's good to vent once in a while, so have at it. If the other person in the relationship can't accept some constructive criticism, then they honestly need to **** off.
I made mistakes in previous relationships, looking for things that were never there. Discovered how to spot crazy people helped, but found out that crazy can evolve in a relationship. The old adage of "study her mother" is key. If her mom is cool, chances are that she'll be cool. If her mom is a nutbag, some of those genes were passed on. Of course this isn't true 100% of the time, but my crazy ex had a batshit crazy mother, so there's some truth in there.
I also found that the best fucks tend to be the craziest fucks, so next time you think of ass to mouth with your lady, you better make sure she doesn't lop off your nuts as you blow your load in her face.

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That's not compromise either.

But taking away every Sunday because of Football is equally wrong.
It's not every Sunday, it's only 22 weeks out of the year. My wife has it worse: 82 game NHL season, 34 game MLS season, and ever 4 years we got the Rugby World Cup (this is one of those years)--yet we never have that same problem. And, my wife hates soccer almost as much as she hates football! We tend to communicate back and forth and if there is a schedule conflict, we resolve it; usually via importance of game, etc. Timbers vs. Crew this past weekend...eh, I could have (and did) miss it (might have explained why we actually WON) for something she wanted to do. Blackhawks Season Opener? She knows it's important and wouldn't ask me to miss it if it's something not dire.

Now, if BNB is so inflexible that he is unwilling to do something with her on a Sunday when his team isn't playing or it's a bye week, then yeah. I can see some of that logic. But based on what he's said it sounds like she's intentionally planning stuff on a Sunday. That IMHO is more wrong that him trying to box out every Sunday from September-February.
 
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It's not every Sunday, it's only 22 weeks out of the year. My wife has it worse: 82 game NHL season, 34 game MLS season, and ever 4 years we got the Rugby World Cup (this is one of those years)--yet we never have that same problem. And, my wife hates soccer almost as much as she hates football! We tend to communicate back and forth and if there is a schedule conflict, we resolve it; usually via importance of game, etc. Timbers vs. Crew this past weekend...eh, I could have (and did) miss it (might have explained why we actually WON) for something she wanted to do. Blackhawks Season Opener? She knows it's important and wouldn't ask me to miss it if it's something not dire.

Now, if BNB is so inflexible that he is unwilling to do something with her on a Sunday when his team isn't playing or it's a bye week, then yeah. I can see some of that logic. But based on what he's said it sounds like she's intentionally planning stuff on a Sunday. That IMHO is more wrong that him trying to box out every Sunday from September-February.

You exaggerated the situation to a whole year. Clearly we are speaking of football season. Yes, it wrong. But then again if you aren't married you have a FAT ZERO in the commitment column. Once that changed over to marriage, it's important to compromise. All we hear is BNB's side of things. We have no idea if it is on purpose or not. What we do know that is on purpose is BNB shutting out life for the worship of football. Right?
 

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A successful relationship has compromise.

How's this for compromise? There are 21 football Sundays in an entire year. That's 21 days out of 356. I've skipped Monday and Thursday night football so we could do something. It's just those 21 days that I want. The rest of the days? I'm open.. unless of course I have work, etc.

But yeah.... I'm being extremely selfish for asking for 21 days.
 

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You exaggerated the situation to a whole year. Clearly we are speaking of football season. Yes, it wrong. But then again if you aren't married you have a FAT ZERO in the commitment column. Once that changed over to marriage, it's important to compromise. All we hear is BNB's side of things. We have no idea if it is on purpose or not. What we do know that is on purpose is BNB shutting out life for the worship of football. Right?

0 commitment if you aren't married? Huh? So people who date for 5 years, then get engaged for another year or two are considered to have 0 commitment to each other until they actually get married? Okay.

"You exaggerated the situation to a whole year."

Followed by

"What we do know that is on purpose is BNB shutting out life for the worship of football."

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Let me tell you a story of woe, such vileness, such utter irreconcilable disaster as to cause your very manhood to shrivel up and wither away. You see, 30 years ago today, really, today is our anniversary. I married a Miami Dolphin fan. What I didn't know at the time, where this tale goes so very wrong, where a mass extinction type event occurs, is that when you cross a Dolphin fan with a Bear fan you get a Green Bay Packers fan. Alas, this sad tale of torture, torment and dolor continues unabated to this very day.
 

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