Vent about your wife/GF thread

[clonetrooper264]

Well I was missing quite the show in here...hmy:

 

[Desperado34]

"It is estimated that roughly 30% to 60% of all married individuals (in the United States) will engage in infidelity at some point during their marriage (see Buss & Shackelford for review of this research). And these numbers are probably on the conservative side, if you consider that close to half of all marriages end in divorce (people are more likely to stray as relationships fall apart; also see, who is likely to cheat)."

Married people cheat all the time.

You hear about that Ashlet Madison leak? The site where married people meet to have an affair? There were 32 million accounts.

Sure.... whatever you say. I "worship" football, and "shut out my life" when watching it :facepalm:

People were furious when those guys hacked that site. I found it karma at it's finest and hilarious.

 

[LordKOTL]

How's this for compromise? There are 21 football Sundays in an entire year. That's 21 days out of 356. I've skipped Monday and Thursday night football so we could do something. It's just those 21 days that I want. The rest of the days? I'm open.. unless of course I have work, etc.

But yeah.... I'm being extremely selfish for asking for 21 days.

I for the most part agree with you, but I see a little of where Brett is coming from. If your G/F has something that she wanted you both wanted to do on a Sunday during football season on a single Sunday when your team du jure has a bye, and that thing could only be done on that Sunday--why deep-6 it? Even if you're not married (which I also agree that marriage is not the denominator between a committed and an uncommitted relationship), IMHO the must-watch sports schedule has to have multi-levels between "More important than seeing my firstborn graduate" and "would be nice but if I had to miss it it wouldn't kill me".

Again, just my opinion here, but assuming you're a Bears fan, and assuming this girl was worth a long-term relationship with in all other aspects, would it really be that bad missing the Sunday in which the Bears have a bye if she wants to do something she can't really do any other time?

But, based on what you said, if she's deliberately trying to schedule stuff on Sundays...IMHO that's wrong. IMHO that's where comunication: effective communication comes into play. If it devolves into "you don't want to spend time with me." that's not effective communication.

Let me tell you a story of woe, such vileness, such utter irreconcilable disaster as to cause your very manhood to shrivel up and wither away. You see, 30 years ago today, really, today is our anniversary. I married a Miami Dolphin fan. What I didn't know at the time, where this tale goes so very wrong, where a mass extinction type event occurs, is that when you cross a Dolphin fan with a Bear fan you get a Green Bay Packers fan. Alas, this sad tale of torture, torment and dolor continues unabated to this very day.

My congrats to your anniversay!

 

[xer0h0ur]

How's this for compromise? There are 21 football Sundays in an entire year. That's 21 days out of 356. I've skipped Monday and Thursday night football so we could do something. It's just those 21 days that I want. The rest of the days? I'm open.. unless of course I have work, etc.

But yeah.... I'm being extremely selfish for asking for 21 days.

Brett is devoid of logic or any actual definition of compromise. Nevermind the fact its not even compromise to begin with because you got into a relationship letting her know full on well what she should expect. **** her if she doesn't even have the self control to give you some fucking space for 21 god damned days of the year. And **** Brett for being a ball-less toolshed he is.

 

[brett05]

xer, welcome to the ignore list.

 

[brett05]

Show something that says it's "far less"

You and I won;t see eye to eye as we are not using the same playbook.

 

[clonetrooper264]

You and I won;t see eye to eye as we are not using the same playbook.

I don't see then why it's necessary to make statements based on your playbook that sound like he is using the same playbook

 

[delbjork1937]

I like different kinds of cheeses in moderation

 

[brett05]

I don't see then why it's necessary to make statements based on your playbook that sound like he is using the same playbook

I would say it's because the forum is not a private "conversation."

 

[clonetrooper264]

I would say it's because the forum is not a private "conversation."

I just don't see the point of using one playbook to make a point if it's not the same playbook ya know? It'll just get lost in translation.

 

[xer0h0ur]

No balls. NO BALLS!

 

[Ares]

No balls. NO BALLS!

Suck it Xer0, your life is worthless now

 

[brett05]

I just don't see the point of using one playbook to make a point if it's not the same playbook ya know? It'll just get lost in translation.

You make a compelling argument.

 

[xer0h0ur]

Suck it Xer0, your life is worthless now

Oh noes!~ Oh mans!~

 

[BNB]

I for the most part agree with you, but I see a little of where Brett is coming from. If your G/F has something that she wanted you both wanted to do on a Sunday during football season on a single Sunday when your team du jure has a bye, and that thing could only be done on that Sunday--why deep-6 it? Even if you're not married (which I also agree that marriage is not the denominator between a committed and an uncommitted relationship), IMHO the must-watch sports schedule has to have multi-levels between "More important than seeing my firstborn graduate" and "would be nice but if I had to miss it it wouldn't kill me".

Again, just my opinion here, but assuming you're a Bears fan, and assuming this girl was worth a long-term relationship with in all other aspects, would it really be that bad missing the Sunday in which the Bears have a bye if she wants to do something she can't really do any other time?

But, based on what you said, if she's deliberately trying to schedule stuff on Sundays...IMHO that's wrong. IMHO that's where comunication: effective communication comes into play. If it devolves into "you don't want to spend time with me." that's not effective communication.

A situation where she wanted to do something that only could be done once on a Sunday during football season has never happened. However, if it were to happen, obviously I'd make an exception. Just an example, but if someone from her family passed and the funeral was on Sunday, I would go.

But what I was venting about was her almost deliberately making plans on Sunday that could have been made another day knowing damn well that I was planning on watching football. Like the circus de soleil thing. We were both off Friday night and Saturday... but she wanted to go Sunday. And this happened three consecutive weeks. What was even more frustrating was that she didn't really offer to do anything on a Sunday in what seemed like a few months. NOW, after I gave warning that football season was coming up and I have plans on watching it with friends, she suddenly wants to do shit on Sunday that could easily be done another time? That was frustrating as ****. It's almost like she wants me to miss it so I can prove how much I like her, which, if that's true, is lame as shit.

Brett just seems to like taking things to the extreme, take things out of context, say things that weren't said, and talk nonsense in general. Oh well.

 

[BNB]

Also, for those that care about what happened... I got an apology text from her today.

I won't put the whole thing, but it basically said "I'm sorry. I feel like a ****** for bringing that shit up. You really do try hard, especially last week. I've just been moody lately."

I'll end it right there.

Feels good

 

[airtime143]

Damn dude...
I feel a little bad rubbing it in but that aint gonna stop me- I am proud of my lady today. She is speaking at a conference in San Diego tomorrow, got there today.
She did me proud, first stop was Qualcomm to get me some goodies for the man-cave...

 

[Tater]

But what I was venting about was her almost deliberately making plans on Sunday that could have been made another day knowing damn well that I was planning on watching football. Like the circus de soleil thing. We were both off Friday night and Saturday... but she wanted to go Sunday. And this happened three consecutive weeks. What was even more frustrating was that she didn't really offer to do anything on a Sunday in what seemed like a few months. NOW, after I gave warning that football season was coming up and I have plans on watching it with friends, she suddenly wants to do shit on Sunday that could easily be done another time? That was frustrating as ****. It's almost like she wants me to miss it so I can prove how much I like her, which, if that's true, is lame as shit.

The bold is exactly it, it's a test and she wants to see how far she can push you. It's not just football or Sunday's, it's time with your friends and she wants to feel more important than them and prove she can veto any activity that you like. It is lame, but you passed the test and held your ground.

Edit: Just saw the other reply. Glad she apologized but I'd still be wary since she pushed it this far over something minor like a few handfuls of Sunday every year..

 

[delbjork1937]

What's a woman?

 

[Urblock]

What's a woman?

Ask Despo he'll tell you.