Girlfriends birthday this sunday..wants to go to a winery at noon.

[WindyCity]

I do not get why any adult makes a big deal out of a birthday.

Shouldn't it be like Santa and the tooth fairy and you out grow it at some point. At this point my wife and I go for dinner, when convienient, and my grandma gives me a check.

 

[Desperado34]

I do not get why any adult makes a big deal out of a birthday.

Shouldn't it be like Santa and the tooth fairy and you out grow it at some point. At this point my wife and I go for dinner, when convienient, and my grandma gives me a check.

I have 2 grandparents, one that lives 10 mins from me, and neither talk or give me anything. Alcoholic losers.

Only ones I have

 

[TreedBear]

I do not get why any adult makes a big deal out of a birthday.

Shouldn't it be like Santa and the tooth fairy and you out grow it at some point. At this point my wife and I go for dinner, when convienient, and my grandma gives me a check.

It might be time to tell grams you're too old to be receiving birthday checks from grandma.

 

[Wintermute]

All this may exist in your personal life/reality, but you should know that many people have a differing set of values and experiences.

And, if you have your own belief system and principles, why are you seeking the advice of others?

Only one system works. But only if you use it correctly.

Also, why do people think they need to celebrate their "special" day exactly on the day of? Go out on Saturday for crying out loud, and do it up right. Then you can really cut loose and still have one recovery day before the work week. Sunday events (other than football) are for church-goers, senior citizens, and AA members.

 

[Wintermute]

Pop quiz hotshots...................

Lets say your much younger girlfriend only gives up the ass when she is on the rag. It also happens to be your wife's birthday weekend and she wants to go for a weekend getaway. The Bears can or cannot be playing. Ditka can or cannot be coaching with min-ditka playing QB.

What do you do? What dooooooooo you dooooooooo?

Take care of the girlfriend Friday night. It's still a weekday, so the old "honey, I'm working late" excuse to the wife should do nicely.

On Saturday, since you didn't specify where home is, fly to Chicago and book a room at a nice hotel and take her out for a romantic dinner and something you know only she would appreciated. There is ALWAYS something to do for everyone that visits Chicago. She will appreciate not wasting time traveling to some distant, overpriced destination and will likely result in great head.

Sunday? Easy. "Look honey, we won free tickets to the Bears game! Since we're already here, we may as well go." Who cares if you actually bought them? You're already cheating on her so the lies should be fairly textbook at this point you morally bankrupt bastard you.

The presence of Ditka and/or mini-Ditka is an irrelevant variable designed to confuse the quiz taker, because the Bears win this game 42-0 anyway.

 

[skcusIHC]

Severely injuring yourself seems to be the best solution here. All sorts of routes you could go, just make sure it's not a life changing injury.

You'll be laid up in front of the TV for the remainder of the football season, and will have almost a full year to grow some balls for next seasons' GF/football game conflicts.

Outside of just telling her the way it is, another solution would be giving yourself food poisoning or purposely crapping yourself on Sunday while getting ready to leave. That will leave little doubt that you're truly sick. No one craps themselves if they're doing ok.

 

[DrGonzo]

Severely injuring yourself seems to be the best solution here. All sorts of routes you could go, just make sure it's not a life changing injury.

You'll be laid up in front of the TV for the remainder of the football season, and will have almost a full year to grow some balls for next seasons' GF/football game conflicts.

Outside of just telling her the way it is, another solution would be giving yourself food poisoning or purposely crapping yourself on Sunday while getting ready to leave. That will leave little doubt that you're truly sick. No one craps themselves if they're doing ok.

I actually LOL'd on that one.

 

[SUPERFAN]

Wake her up to some cunnilingus
Then knock it out the park until 11
She'll sleep til 3-4 then go to the winery after the game

 

[FirstTimer]

It's a fucking birthday.

We are not talking about the birth of a child or a funeral here.

Things I will miss a Bears game for

-Childbirth
-Wedding, but pissed at the friend.
-Funeral
-My Kids Events
-To Keep my Job
-Family Illness or Emergency

Everything else is made up important.

LOL you can't be fucking serious.

 

[bearmick]

Says the divorcee. How did being a white knight feminist pushover work out for you?

If you think doing something nice for your old lady on her birthday is feminist pushover stuff, that might explain why the only relationship you've ever had is with your xbox.

It's a fucking birthday.

We are not talking about the birth of a child or a funeral here.

Things I will miss a Bears game for

-Childbirth
-Wedding, but pissed at the friend.
-Funeral
-My Kids Events
-To Keep my Job
-Family Illness or Emergency

Everything else is made up important.

Nothing more made up important than a football game. I know we spend hours arguing about it, but it's just time filler, and really in the grand scheme of things, who cares? Football means squat. My list of "things I'll miss a Bears game for" goes way down to "there's a half way interesting conversation going on at the same time", and further.

 

[Scoot26]

LOL you can't be fucking serious.

He probably, pretty surely is.

 

[PrideisBears]

I stop really giving a shit about birthdays around 15. Now it just means I'm closer to debt and death. Op can take his girlfriend to a winery any day of the week

 

[didshereallysaythat]

All this may exist in your personal life/reality, but you should know that many people have a differing set of values and experiences.

And, if you have your own belief system and principles, why are you seeking the advice of others?

When was I asking others for advice?

This has nothing to do with morals or values. I am not saying to treat women like shit. I am saying that you don't give into their tests and whimper down to their every command like they own you.

For this given situation, it would be one thing if she wanted to go to the winery at SOME POINT in the day. The fact that she literally asked to go right at noon signals that she is testing him to give up something he loves to be with her at that very moment when she knows she could go to the winery at any other time.

 

[didshereallysaythat]

If you think doing something nice for your old lady on her birthday is feminist pushover stuff, that might explain why the only relationship you've ever had is with your xbox.



Nothing more made up important than a football game. I know we spend hours arguing about it, but it's just time filler, and really in the grand scheme of things, who cares? Football means squat. My list of "things I'll miss a Bears game for" goes way down to "there's a half way interesting conversation going on at the same time", and further.

If you think about it, almost everything we do for fun means nothing in the grand scheme of things. Playing golf? Doesn't mean anything really. Watching sports? Doesn't make your life better. Playing poker? You might lose your money.

This has nothing to do with watching a football game or anything else. The problem is that the person is giving up what they want to do (what makes them happy) because the other person is trying to be manipulative.

And if you think you need to give into your significant others EVERY COMMAND just because it is her birthday, then you are a fucking white knight. Plain and simple.

 

[FirstTimer]

This has nothing to do with watching a football game or anything else. The problem is that the person is giving up what they want to do (what makes them happy) because the other person is trying to be manipulative.

Someone, on their birthday, wants to go somewhere.........and that's being manipulative?

 

[bearmick]

If you think about it, almost everything we do for fun means nothing in the grand scheme of things. Playing golf? Doesn't mean anything really. Watching sports? Doesn't make your life better. Playing poker? You might lose your money.

This has nothing to do with watching a football game or anything else.

Sure it does. Watching a football game is no different to any of these things. Something unimportant to enjoy for a few hours on a weekend.

The problem is that the person is giving up what they want to do (what makes them happy) because the other person is trying to be manipulative.

And if you think you need to give into your significant others EVERY COMMAND just because it is her birthday, then you are a fucking white knight. Plain and simple.

LOL @ "giving in to every command". The woman has an idea for a day out that she'd like to do on her birthday. If such a simple request causes you to feel like some insecure sense of dominance in the relationship is being threatened, then you're pathetic and needy beyond words.

 

[didshereallysaythat]

Someone, on their birthday, wants to go somewhere.........and that's being manipulative?

Yes because they can go before or after the game just as easily. She is trying to see if he will give up something he loves "just because".

 

[didshereallysaythat]

Sure it does. Watching a football game is no different to any of these things. Something unimportant to enjoy for a few hours on a weekend.



LOL @ "giving in to every command". The woman has an idea for a day out that she'd like to do on her birthday. If such a simple request causes you to feel like some pathetically insecure sense of dominance in the relationship is being threatened, then you're selfish and needy beyond words.

Watching a football game being no different than any of those other things is my point. Any of those things could be something someone might enjoy doing. Whatever it is, as long as it is not hurting yourself or others... you should continue to do it.

Going to a winery is not a "day out". I have been to them before. You might be there 2 hours max. Like I said, that could easily be done before or after the game.

 

[FirstTimer]

Yes because they can go before or after the game just as easily.

Can they? What are the hours of this place on a Sunday?

 

[FirstTimer]

Going to a winery is not a "day out". .

You need to get out more. A lot of times they do walking tours, rides etc around them.

In either case, you're missing the point. Dude is bitching about missing a Bears game because his g/f wants to go do something on her birthday. Not that big of a deal. Go to the winery, smile, let her enjoy her birthday, come home watch the game on DVR.